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Dear Prudence
Dear Prudence
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Slate's premier advice column, featuring Jenée Desmond-Harris, helps you navigate the thorniest questions of relationships, work, and life. Want more Dear Prudence? Join... more

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Episodes

We Bought A House. Now He Won’t Marry Me. Help!

Guest Prudie Cheyna Roth is joined by Steven Ray Morris — best known for his work on My Favorite Murder,... more

22 Nov 2024 · 37 minutes
I Can’t Afford To Support My Girlfriend Anymore. Help!

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by longtime Slate-ster June Thomas — author of A Place of Our Own: Six... more

15 Nov 2024 · 44 minutes
I’m Sick of Hearing My Friend Cry About Her Job. Help!

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by journalist and host of Vox’s Explain It To Me podcast JQ Hill. Together,... more

08 Nov 2024 · 40 minutes
My Wife Won’t Stop Correcting My Grammar. Help!

Guest Prudie Ashley C. Ford is joined by entertainment writer and comedian H. Alan Scott. Together, they answer letters from... more

01 Nov 2024 · 43 minutes
My Husband Wants More Sympathy Than I Can Give. Help!

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by Care and Feeding co-host Lucy Lopez. Together, they answer letters from a wife... more

25 Oct 2024 · 53 minutes
I Love My Family. My Husband Doesn’t. Help!

Guest Prudie Nadira Goffe is joined by actress and comedian Sasheer Zamata. Together, they answer letters about a neighbor-turned-last-minute-babysitter whose... more

18 Oct 2024 · 47 minutes
I Spread A Rumor That Alienated My Friends and Mentor. Help!

In this episode, Sam Sanders (host of The Sam Sanders Show from KCRW) sits in as Guest Prudie with Slate’s... more

11 Oct 2024 · 55 minutes
My Widowed Dad Is Now The “Other Woman.” Help!

In this episode, it’s a Slate three-for-one as Cheyna Roth and Candice Lim join our Guest Prudie (Nadira Goffe) to... more

04 Oct 2024 · 48 minutes
My Friend Keeps Disappearing and it Hurts! Help!

In this episode, Rachel Bloom (The CW musical comedy-drama series Crazy Ex-Girlfriend and Netflix’s Death, Let Me Do My Special) joins our Guest... more

27 Sep 2024 · 38 minutes
I Didn’t Wish My Sister a Happy Birthday—Now She’s Pissed! Help!

In this episode, Akilah Hughes (host of a new podcast from iHeart, Rebel Spirit) joins our Guest Prudie (Ashley C. Ford)... more

20 Sep 2024 · 38 minutes
Revisiting Advice from Ashley C. Ford

Today, we’re revisiting one of our favorite episodes from October 2023 with Ashley C. Ford, author of the bestselling memoir Somebody’s... more

13 Sep 2024 · 46 minutes
My Wife Thinks I Had an Emotional Affair With My Best Friend. Help!

In this episode, Lizzie O’Leary (the host of Slate’s What Next: TBD) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from... more

06 Sep 2024 · 41 minutes
I Found My Happily Married Mom’s Profile on a BDSM Dating Site. Help!

In this episode, Nadira Goffe (Slate culture writer) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about what to... more

30 Aug 2024 · 51 minutes
I’m Dating My Former Professor and It’s Affecting My Relationship With My Sisters. Help!

In this episode, Samantha Bee (Full Frontal with Samantha Bee and Choice Words with Samantha Bee) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer... more

23 Aug 2024 · 35 minutes
My Husband and I Divorced Amicably. Nine Months Later, He Wants Me Back. Help!

In this episode, Rod and Karen Morrow (co-hosts of the podcast The Black Guy Who Tips) join Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to... more

16 Aug 2024 · 45 minutes
Politics Is Ruining My Family. Help!

In this episode, David Roth and Drew Magary (the hosts of Defector Media’s The Distraction) join Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer... more

09 Aug 2024 · 35 minutes
My Friend Told Our Friend Group That My Boyfriend Sexually Assaulted Me. He Didn’t. Help!

In this episode, Scaachi Koul (Slate’s senior writer and co-host of Wondery’s Scamfluencers) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about... more

02 Aug 2024 · 36 minutes
My Brother-In-Law’s Girlfriend Wore A Transparent Dress To My Wedding. Help!

In this episode, Arionne Nettles (author of We Are the Culture: Black Chicago’s Influence on Everything) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to... more

26 Jul 2024 · 41 minutes
I Am Swamped With Plans and I Hate It. Help!

In this episode, Carvell Wallace (author of Another Word for Love and host of Slate’s How To!) joins Prudie (Jenée... more

19 Jul 2024 · 42 minutes
My BFF Bullied Her Husband Into Allowing Her to Sleep With Other Men. Help!

In this episode, Ronald Young Jr. (host of Weight For It and Slate’s Working) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers... more

12 Jul 2024 · 37 minutes
How’s Your Sex Life?: How Do I Get Over My Ex? with Brandon Kyle Goodman

How do I navigate casual dating? How do I get over my ex? How can I approach sex and dating... more

05 Jul 2024 · 41 minutes
My In-Laws Disrespected My Daughter, So I Kicked Them Out. Help!

In this episode, Mina Kimes (ESPN NFL analyst and host of The Mina Kimes Show featuring Lenny) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris)... more

28 Jun 2024 · 39 minutes
Revisiting Advice from Dr. Orna Guralnik

Today, we’re revisiting one of our favorite episodes from September 2023 with Dr. Orna Guralnik (host of Showtime’s Couples Therapy). In this... more

21 Jun 2024 · 42 minutes
I’m Sick of Feeling Like I’m Always the One Doing All The Work in Dating. Help!

In this episode, Erika Ettin (founder of A Little Nudge, an online dating coaching service) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters... more

14 Jun 2024 · 41 minutes
I Bailed on a Family Trip Because My Plane Seat Didn’t Have Enough Legroom—Am I a Monster? Help!

In this episode, Farhad Manjoo (author of Slate’s r/Farhad column) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how a 72-year-old... more

07 Jun 2024 · 27 minutes
I’m 39 and in Love With a 67-year-old. I’m Concerned About Judgment From Others. Help!

In this episode, Emily McCombs (the Deputy Editor of HuffPost Personal) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers... more

31 May 2024 · 39 minutes
My Nonreligious Boyfriend Is Meeting My Ultra-Religious Parents. Help!

In this episode, Dear Prudence editors Paola de Varona and Bryan Lowder join Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from... more

24 May 2024 · 39 minutes
My Mom Forgot to Take Her Medicine and “Accidentally” Made Racist Remarks. Help!

In this episode, Kiese Laymon (author of Long Division, How to Slowly Kill Yourself in America, and Heavy: An American Memoir) joins Prudie... more

17 May 2024 · 31 minutes
I’m Queer and Here—Just Not to My Parents. Help!

In this episode, Dan Savage (of the Savage Love sex advice column and Savage Lovecast) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from... more

10 May 2024 · 32 minutes
My Brother Is a Budding Alex Jones. Help!

In this episode, Heben Nigatu (HBO’s Game Theory with Bomani Jones and BuzzFeed podcast Another Round) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters... more

03 May 2024 · 34 minutes
My love language with friends is touch, but it makes my partner jealous. Help!

In this episode, Gina Cherelus (New York Times’ weekly dating column Third Wheel) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters... more

26 Apr 2024 · 42 minutes
My Wife’s Bipolar Diagnosis Is Creating A Rift in Our Marriage. Help!

In this episode, Bassey Ikpi (New York Times bestselling essay collection, I’m Telling the Truth but I’m Lying) joins Prudie (Jenée... more

19 Apr 2024 · 35 minutes
I Lost a Lot of Weight and Now I Enjoy Being a Mean Girl. Help!

In this episode, Anna Sale (host of Death Sex and Money) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers... more

12 Apr 2024 · 40 minutes
From Choice Words: Live in Fear or Love? (with Karamo)

We’re bringing you an episode of Choice Words with Samantha Bee from our friends at Lemonada Media. In this episode,... more

05 Apr 2024 · 48 minutes
My Partner Sticks Her Finger in Food to Taste Test It. Help!

In this episode, Dan Pashman (The Sporkful and Anything’s Pastable) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how to... more

29 Mar 2024 · 36 minutes
My Parents Are Flaunting Their Wealth While I’m Drowning in Debt. Help!

In this episode, Joel Anderson (host of Slow Burn and writer of Emotional Investment) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers... more

22 Mar 2024 · 30 minutes
My Ex Had Sex With My Brother. Help!

In this episode, Michael Arceneaux (I Can’t Date Jesus and I Finally Bought Some Jordans) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters... more

15 Mar 2024 · 38 minutes
I Want People to Shut Up! Help!

In this episode, Aubrey Gordon (who you may also know as “Your Fat Friend”) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer... more

08 Mar 2024 · 39 minutes
Am I a Bad Father If I Don't Want to Acknowledge My Kid Publicly? Help!

In this episode, Jay Smooth (Underground Railroad and Think Twice: Michael Jackson) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from... more

01 Mar 2024 · 35 minutes
My Friend Has a Master’s Degree in Lying. Help!

In this episode, Jenny Hagel (Jenny Hagel Gives Advice and Late Night Trash Can with Jenny Hage) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to... more

23 Feb 2024 · 36 minutes
How Do I Get Over Someone I Never Dated? Help!

In this episode, Jenna Wortham (Black Futures and Still Processing) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about... more

16 Feb 2024 · 38 minutes
Is My Work Husband Keeping Me A Secret From His Wife? Help!

In this episode, Gia Peppers (Healed Girl Era and More Than That) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from... more

09 Feb 2024 · 36 minutes
Am I a Bigot If I Don’t Want to Date Foreigners? Help!

In this episode, Michael Hobbes (If Books Could Kill and Maintenance Phase) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about... more

02 Feb 2024 · 29 minutes
My Husband Stopped Using Soap and He Stinks. Help!

In this episode, Cheryl Strayed (Dear Sugar and Tiny Beautiful Things) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers... more

26 Jan 2024 · 39 minutes
I Spend Hours a Day Having Intense Romantic Daydreams. Help!

In this episode, our first-ever married couple, Liz Neeley and Ed Yong, join Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from... more

19 Jan 2024 · 42 minutes
A DNA Test Revealed a Secret Sibling. Help!

In this episode, Jamelle Bouie (New York Times opinion columnist) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about... more

12 Jan 2024 · 37 minutes
I Don’t Want to Cancel My Retirement Plans to Babysit. Help!

In this episode, Nicole Chung (author of A Living Remedy and All You Can Ever Know) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris)... more

05 Jan 2024 · 47 minutes
Outward: We’re Here, We’re Queer, Here’s Some Advice!

On today’s episode brought to us Slate’s Outward, hosts Jules Gill-Peterson and Bryan Lowder, are joined by advice expert Danny Lavery to... more

29 Dec 2023 · 39 minutes
My Mother-In-Law Doesn’t Wash Her Hands After Using The Bathroom. Help!

In this episode, Josie Duffy Rice (host of Crooked Media’s What a Day) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters... more

22 Dec 2023 · 43 minutes
I Rejected A Friend’s Sexual Advance—Now He’s Being Weird. Help!

In this episode, Brittany Luse (host of NPR’s’ It’s Been a Minute) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from... more

15 Dec 2023 · 39 minutes
My Friend Won’t Stop Buying Me Gifts. Help!

In this episode, the co-hosts of Forever 35, Kate Spencer and Doree Shafrir, join Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters... more

08 Dec 2023 · 42 minutes
I Want to "Cancel" My Bad Boss But I'm Having Doubts. Help!

In this episode, Elie Mystal (attorney and writer) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters about what to do when... more

01 Dec 2023 · 51 minutes
Revisiting Advice from LeVar Burton

We’re listening back to one of Jenée’s favorite episodes when award-winning actor, director, and educator LeVar Burton joined Prudie (Jenée... more

24 Nov 2023 · 37 minutes
My Family Won't Let Me Host for the Holidays. Help!

In this episode, Dan Kois (writer at Slate) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters about dilemmas around holiday celebrations:... more

17 Nov 2023 · 41 minutes
My Coworker Keeps Kissing Me on the Cheek. Help!

In this episode, Alison Green (author of Ask a Manager) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters about workplace dilemmas:... more

10 Nov 2023 · 39 minutes
My Friend Tried to Bring Her Kids to A Winery. Help!

In this episode, the co-hosts of Slate’s ICYMI, Rachelle Hampton and Candice Lim, join Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters... more

03 Nov 2023 · 43 minutes
I’m Making Bitchy Comments to A Dog! Help!

In this episode, Maeve Higgins (author of Maeve in America: Essays by a Girl From Somewhere Else) joins Prudie (Jenée... more

27 Oct 2023 · 38 minutes
Is It Okay to Ghost A Friend? Help!

In this episode, Roxane Gay (best-selling author of Bad Feminist and Opinions) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how... more

20 Oct 2023 · 39 minutes
Is It Too Early in the Relationship to Say "I Love You"? Help!

In this episode, Tracy Clayton (co-host of Pineapple Street Studios’ Back Issue) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from... more

13 Oct 2023 · 34 minutes
My Girlfriend Is Always Late! Help!

In this episode, Ashley C. Ford (author of the bestselling memoir Somebody’s Daughter) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters... more

06 Oct 2023 · 43 minutes
Should I Donate Sperm To My Ex? Help!

In this episode, Amy Aniobi (best known for her work on HBO's Insecure) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters... more

29 Sep 2023 · 38 minutes
I Don't Want My Dad to Give Me Away at My Wedding. Help!

In this episode, Caroline Moss (writer, editor, and author) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about how... more

22 Sep 2023 · 46 minutes
My Partner’s Relationship With His Ex Makes Me Feel Like the Third Wheel. Help!

In this episode, Tia Williams (bestselling author of The Perfect Find) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers... more

15 Sep 2023 · 36 minutes
My Sister Is Lying to My Nephews About Their Father's Identity. Help!

In this episode, Gene Demby (co-host of NPR's Code Switch) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about... more

08 Sep 2023 · 44 minutes
Relationship Podcasts Are Ruining My Friend's Life. Help!

In this episode, Dr. Orna Guralnik (host of Showtime's Couples Therapy) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers... more

01 Sep 2023 · 40 minutes
My Wife Goes Braless Around Our Teenage Sons. Help!

In this episode, Brian Lehrer (host of WNYC’s The Brian Lehrer Show) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers... more

25 Aug 2023 · 45 minutes
I Told My Husband I May Have Postpartum Depression—He Did Nothing. Help!

In this episode, Lori Gottlieb (advice columnist and co-host of the Dear Therapists podcast) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer... more

18 Aug 2023 · 51 minutes
My Co-Worker Won’t Stop Sending Me Friend Requests Online. Help!

In this episode, Joel Anderson (the host of the latest season of Slate’s Slow Burn) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to... more

11 Aug 2023 · 29 minutes
My Sister Is Doing Everything She Can to Make Me Suffer at Her Wedding. Help!

In this episode, Jasmine Guillory (a New York Times bestselling author) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers... more

04 Aug 2023 · 34 minutes
My Boyfriend Hid His Hobby From Me—Civil War Reenactments. Help!

In this episode, Damon Young (a writer, critic, and a self-proclaimed “professional black person”) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer... more

28 Jul 2023 · 47 minutes
How Do I Disclose to My Kids That I've Had an Abortion–Twice? Help!

In this episode, Jessica Valenti (a feminist columnist and author) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer readers’ letters about whether... more

21 Jul 2023 · 48 minutes
My Friends Got Me a Terrible Birthday Gift. Help!

In this episode, Josh Gondelman (author, producer, and stand-up comedian) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer readers’ dilemmas about workplace... more

14 Jul 2023 · 37 minutes
I Hate My Fiancé’s Mustache—but He Refuses to Get Rid of It. Help!

In this episode, Meredith Goldstein (advice columnist and features writer for The Boston Globe) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer... more

07 Jul 2023 · 44 minutes
A Co-Worker I Dated is Spreading Rumors About Our Breakup. Help!

In this episode, Candice Lim (co-host of Slate’s ICYMI) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about whether... more

30 Jun 2023 · 40 minutes
How Do You Know When It’s Time to Break Up With a Friend? Help!

In this episode, Alisha Wainwright (actor and host of the new podcast series, When Science Finds A Way) joins Prudie... more

23 Jun 2023 · 48 minutes
I Tested My Partner’s Parenting Readiness and He’s Upset. Help!

In this episode, Ophira Eisenberg (host of the new comedy podcast Parenting Is A Joke) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to... more

16 Jun 2023 · 38 minutes
I Think My Husband Is Quiet Quitting Our Marriage. Help!

In this episode, Shan Boodram (host of Lovers and Friends and Bumble's Sex & Relationship Expert) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris)... more

09 Jun 2023 · 39 minutes
I Think My Wife Is Cheating On Me—With A Robot. Help!

In this episode, the co-hosts of Stitcher’s Vibe Check, Sam Sanders, Saeed Jones, and Zach Stafford joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris)... more

02 Jun 2023 · 55 minutes
I Saved My Neighbor’s Life And Now She Won't Leave Me Alone. Help!

In this episode, Kelsey McKinney (host of Radiotopia’s Normal Gossip and co-owner of Defector.com) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer... more

26 May 2023 · 39 minutes
I Think My Dad Is Cheating On My Mom. Help!

In this episode, co-host of Red Table Talk and host of Positively Gam Adrienne “Gammy” Banfield Norris joins Prudie (Jenée... more

19 May 2023 · 35 minutes
My Co-Worker Repeatedly Ignores My Boundaries. Help!

In this episode, LeVar Burton --award-winning actor, director, and educator-- joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer your letters from readers... more

12 May 2023 · 37 minutes
Should I Travel Across the World With My Ex? Help!

In this episode, Aisha Harris (co-host for NPR’s Pop Culture Happy Hour) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer your letters... more

05 May 2023 · 38 minutes
I Was Only “Verbally” Invited to a Wedding. Help!

In this episode, Cheyna Roth (podcast producer for Slate’s The Waves) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer your letters about... more

28 Apr 2023 · 41 minutes
My Close Friend Is Spiraling And I Live Far Away. Help!

In this episode, Lane Moore (bestselling author of How To Be Alone and the upcoming You Will Find Your People)... more

21 Apr 2023 · 42 minutes
My Husband Wants Our 9-Year-Old Son to Play Tackle Football. Help!

In this episode, Bomani Jones (host of HBO’s Game Theory With Bomani Jones and The Right Time With Bomani Jones)... more

14 Apr 2023 · 37 minutes
I Don’t Want My Dad to Attend My Daughter’s Wedding. Help!

In this episode, Danny M. Lavery (former Prudie and host of Slate’s Big Mood, Little Mood) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris)... more

07 Apr 2023 · 46 minutes
I Think Black Tourists Are in Danger in My Town. Help!

In this episode, Jamilah Lemieux (co-host of Slate’s Mom and Dad are Fighting) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer questions... more

31 Mar 2023 · 40 minutes
My Wife’s Friend Is Not Her Friend. Help!

In this episode, Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) answers questions from letter writers about coping with aging, dealing with a spouse’s out-of-control... more

24 Mar 2023 · 41 minutes
My Mom Doesn’t Think My Fiancé Is Enough. Help!

In this episode, Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) answers questions from letter writers who are dealing with judgemental parents, homophobic in-laws, and... more

17 Mar 2023 · 39 minutes
Should I Have A Baby? Help!

In this episode, Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) answers questions from letter writers who are stuck in high-paying jobs, deciding whether to... more

10 Mar 2023 · 37 minutes
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In this episode, Jamilah Lemieux (co-host of Slate’s Mom and Dad are Fighting) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer questions from letter... more