You're awake again at 3:00am. You can't go back to sleep. You calculate how much sleep you'll have if you... more

We are contantly bombarded with lifestyle symbols and the promises they bring of attracting lifestyle couples to us in our... more

What is trust not? Trust is not a feeling that someone else creates in us with their actions. Some of... more

Fearing or experiencing jealousy is one of the biggest reasons couples either don't try the lifestyle or don't last in... more

Please join us in celebrating 10 years recording the We Gotta Thing podcast! This is a very special episode recorded... more

Meshai from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us as we dive into the topic of being rejected in the lifestyle. We... more

Why do we want to connect with others? What are some ways we connect with others? What types of connections... more

Jason from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us this month to discuss the 'non-quantifiable' work involved in exploring non-monogamy. Based on... more

Listen in as our friends Mark and Beth share their unique journey into and exploration of non-monogamy! We also review our... more

Kel from Expansive Connection coaching joins us to discuss some of the benefits and challenges one may encounter when choosing... more

Having experienced counseling ourselves over the past few months, we invite Catherine from Expansive Connection to talk with us about... more

Listen in as we review the brand new "The Eden" section of Desire Riviera Maya! We also enlist the help... more

Most of us have mastered being 'adult-like' in all aspects of our lives. We are experienced at life. We are... more

Being vulnerable is not easy and may not come natural for some, espcially when exploring the lifestyle. We tend to... more

Are you the type of person who puts the feelings of others above of your own? Do you want... more

We explore the perceptions and realities of what, exactly a kiss can mean to those in the lifestyle community. Does... more

Listen in on our live recording from Desire Pearl where our guests discuss their unique perspectives, perceptions and realities of... more

Join Mr & Mrs Jones and they interview "Scott & Kelly." This couple's journey into the lifestyle sounds like many... more

As newbies we started our lifestyle journey looking for people to connect with and then explore sexually. Back then it... more

Chris and Nancy share their amazing and unique story of finding the lifestyle through a period of intense emotional exploration... more

Many couples ask about how to 'successfully' navigate a clothing optional resort. How do we find couples like us? How... more

In advance of our group trip to Temptation Grand Miches in the Dominican Republic we visited the resort to experience... more

We hear story after story about the difficulties many (and mostly newer) couples in the lifestyle experience when encountering 'cliques'... more

Listen in on our conversation with our friends "J&B 2.0" as they share their particular story of how they discovered... more

Finding lifestely events and then choosing which event is the best fit for your approach to the lifestyle can be... more

Listen in as our event guests discuss working through their individual fears, anxieties and challenges at a clothing optional resort... more

We sit down with four of our lifestyle friends and share real stories about what it's like to experience hurt... more

We discuss four distinct behaviors we consider to be deal breakers to moving forward and possibly making new lifestyle friends... more

Finding your tribe, making lifelong friends, connecting for sexy playtime and growing your primary relationship are just a few ways... more

New Relationship Energy (NRE) is that sexual buzz we feel when we first meet and connect with a couple or... more

As the idea and exploration of consensual non-monogamy continues to grow we have noticed the need for organized community. The... more

To quote Mrs Jones, "we should be an example and not a blueprint." It may seem natural to adapt our... more

Catherine (one of our favorite humans) and her team from Expansive Connection join us to discuss how they have created... more

We often hear couples suggest they are taking a break from the lifestyle due to 'real life' issues. We also... more

Have you experienced lifestyle play partners getting a little upset when you choose to spend time with others? How about... more

This is the most important topic that nobody wants to talk about! Chances are this won't happen to you (as... more

Listen in as our guests share their Desire Pearl 2021 snapshots in a recorded-live conversation from the resort! Some are... more

This month we discuss why other couples reject us when reaching out from a lifestyle dating site and how to... more

We discuss the importance of trust from four different angles: trusting your relationship, trusting each other, trusting other couples and... more

Group play can be fun but also tricky! In this episode we explore the benefits and pitfalls and share our... more

No matter how long you've been in the lifestyle you are going to make mistakes. So we've come up with... more

In this episode we discuss how our perceptions change to our reality the more we are exposed to actual events.... more

There are perceptions in the lifestyle that a woman must be 'bi-something' to attract and connect with other couples. On... more

Perhaps you have not had your first play experience yet or haven't had one in a very long time due... more

Do you struggle with if, when and how to tell other couples you're not interested in meeting? What about after... more

Not only does real life often get in the way of engaging in the lifestyle, but simply staying sexually connected... more

We believe there are three important components of compatibility that we need to consider when trying to find connections with... more

In this episode we discuss the idea that there is a unique language spoken by those in the swinging lifestyle.... more

We talk a lot about all the special friendships we've made in the lifestyle and many of you express frustration... more

It's not a secret that engaging in the lifestyle can be expensive! In this episode we discuss budgeting tips for... more

Men are programmed through all aspects of life to avoid showing interest in other women. But now we are in... more

Before entering the lifestyle or becoming experienced in the lifestyle we never imagined doing some of the things we've actually... more

As we are mired in the current pandemic many of us are being pulled back away from our social and... more

As we all focus on staying well during this pandemic we thought it a good time to talk about a... more

We've all heard the term 'opposites attract' when talking about relationships. Does the same hold true when finding connections in... more

We are all guilty of creating false narratives and making up those stories in our heads as we consider approaching... more

In this episode we discuss the issue of 'Kissing and Telling' in the lifestyle. How do you feel about couples... more

Listen in on our conversation with a resort full of imperfect but beautiful ladies! The ladies of Desire discuss what... more

We all agree consent is a bedrock principle in the lifestyle but most conversations around this topic focus on verbal... more