Unsilenced: Real Conversations About Abuse

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Unsilenced: Real Conversations About Abuse

There is a culture of silence around the issue of domestic abuse and this podcast is here to break that silence. Run by members of JBWS, a domestic violence agency, Unsilenced: Real Conversations About Abuse doesn't shy away from having difficult conversations about abuse to help others recognize that they may be in unhealthy relationships or using unhealthy behaviors themselves.

  1. 22H AGO

    Is My Partner Controlling Me? How to Recognize Controlling Behaviors, with Mary Jane McCarthy, LAC

    Do you ever have a right to tell your partner what they can and can’t do? Is it ever okay to threaten to leave a relationship if the other person doesn’t change a behavior you don’t like? Where is the line between communicating needs and exerting control over your partner? Power and control is at the heart of unhealthy relationships, but it’s not always easy to recognize. This episode analyzes all aspects of power and control so listeners can begin to recognize these signs in their relationships or their loved ones relationships. VIDEO CONTENT: (0:00) Introduction (01:51) What Is Power and Control? (5:25) Coercion and Threats (10:02) Control & Threatening to Leave (12:31) Intimidation (22:23) Emotional Abuse (27:08) The Cycle of Violence (28:17) Isolation (35:05) Denying, Minimizing, and Blaming (42:54) Using Children to Maintain Control (45:32) Status Abuse (48:43) Financial Abuse (53:54) Equality in Relationships (54:46) Physical and Sexual Violence (55:58) Putting It All Together (1:00:28) About JBWS & Resources Power and Control Wheel Equality Wheel What Does Emotional Abuse Look and Feel Like? Resources: If you are in an unhealthy relationship and living or working in Morris County, New Jersey JBWS can help call our 24-Hour Helpline at 1.877.782.2873 or visit ⁠⁠jbws.org/services. If you notice controlling or unhealthy behaviors in yourself, JBWS can help. Call 973.539.7801 or visit jbws.org/jcnv.⁠⁠ If you don't live or work in Morris County, NJ please visit https://www.thehotline.org/ or call 800.799.SAFE (7233) Intro and outro music donated by Billy Morris

    1h 2m

  2. MAR 26

    Is Consent Only About Sex? Redefining Consent, with Maria Lagattuta, LCSW

    Do you consider consent when brushing your hand against someone's back at the bar? Do you think about it before hugging someone who is in tears? Too often, we only think about consent in regards to sexual activity, but it's something we should consider daily. In this episode of Unsilenced, Maria Lagattuta explores: What consent looks like in all relationshipsHow victims of abuse frequently don't have much consent in their relationshipsHow nonconsensual activities can negatively impact victims of abuseHow people cannot consent to activities that could kill them, such as choking during sexAnd how people can practice noticing when something feels consensual to them CONTENT: (0:00) Introduction (1:30) Is Consent Always Sexual? (2:45) Nonsexual Forms of Consent (6:06) Emotional Consent (8:01) What Consent Does and Doesn't Look Like (10:00) The Lack of No Doesn't Mean Yes (11:23) Arousal Doesn't Mean Always Imply Consent (12:45) How Is Consent Used in Power and Control? (19:57) Learning to Recognize Consent in Yourself (21:53) Victims Don't Consent to Abuse (26:15) Can Choking During Sex Be Consensual? (34:46) Consent in Daily Life (40:29) About JBWS & Resources Are you in an unhealthy relationship and living or working in Morris County, New Jersey? JBWS can help call our 24-Hour Helpline at 1.877.782.2873 or visit ⁠⁠jbws.org/services. ⁠⁠ Do you recognize controlling or abusive behaviors in yourself? JBWS can also help. Please call 973.539.7801 or visit ⁠⁠jbws.org/jcnv⁠⁠ If you don't live or work in Morris County, NJ please visit https://www.thehotline.org/ or call 800.799.SAFE (7233) Intro and outro music donated by Billy Morris

    42 min

  3. MAR 11

    Can Women Be Abusive? Understanding Women's Use of Abuse, with Lisa Young Larance, Ph.D.

    Imagine a woman who has endured emotional, physical, or sexual abuse for years. Her husband has isolated her from family and friends, restricted her finances, and harms her every day. If this woman then physically hurts her partner – is she seen as abusive? Dr. Lisa Young Larance is a pioneer in the field of antiviolence intervention with extensive experience working with women who have used abuse in their relationships. On this episode of Unsilenced, Dr. Young Larance examines: The issue with the victim-offender binaryExplains why programs designed for men who have used abuse will not work for women due to differences in socializationOffers insight into how society perceives victims of abuse who harm their partners And answers the question “Can Women Be Abusive?” Content: (0:00) Introduction (2:02) Avoiding Stereotypes and History (10:36) Why Programs for Men Won’t Work for Women (15:44) The Issue with the Victim Offender Binary (17:11) The “Lifetime” Victim (18:51) Fear vs. Dread (22:58) What is Coercive Control? (27:36) Women’s Socialization Vs. Men’s Socialization (29:07) Mandatory Arrest Laws (31:50) How Society Views Women Who Fight Back (36:07) Can Women Be Abusive? (39:18) About JBWS & Resources Find Dr. Young Larance's Book: Broken: Women’s Stories of Intimate and Institutional Harm and Repair by Dr. Lisa Young Larance Resources and Additional Information: ⁠Is Your Relationship Healthy? ⁠ National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800.799.SAFE (7233). JBWS' 24-Hour Helpline: 1.877.782.2873 Support for those using abuse: jbws.org/jcnv *Intro and outro music donated by Billy Morris

    41 min

  4. FEB 25

    How to Recognize Abuse in Teen Relationships, with Maddie Hahn, MSW

    Abuse among teens can look different than our typical understanding of domestic violence. In this episode, Maddie Hahn, the manager of JBWS’ Dating Abuse Prevention Program, answers many questions about dating abuse for both teenagers and their parents or guardians. This episode covers: Location sharing, the expectation of constant communication, how we can model healthy relationships for teenagers, how bullies mimic dynamics of power and control we see in abuse, the importance of maintaining our relationship armor, and more. Maddie explains how parents or guardians can casually promote healthy relationships by encouraging discussions about media and pop culture. When these discussions do arise, Maddie offers suggestions on dos and donts for navigating the conversation.   Content: (0:00) Introduction (2:10) Can Abuse Happen In Teen Relationships? (7:48) Location Sharing (12:52) Constant Texting (16:50) Maintaining Relationship Armor (20:11) Warning Signs of Abuse (24:27) Dos and Donts for Talking to Teens about Relationships (31:27) Modeling Healthy Relationships (32:53) Bullies Use Power and Control (35:09) The Harm in Downplaying Teen Relationships (38:01) How Breaking Up Could Be Dangerous (40:18) Closing Remarks (43:22) About JBWS & Services Services and Resources: Are you in an unhealthy relationship and living or working in Morris County, New Jersey? JBWS can help call our 24-Hour Helpline at 1.877.782.2873 or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠jbws.org/services⁠⁠. ⁠⁠⁠ Do you recognize controlling or abusive behaviors in yourself? JBWS can also help. Please call 973.539.7801 or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠jbws.org/jcnv⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you don't live or work in Morris County, NJ please visit ⁠https://www.thehotline.org/⁠ or call 800.799.SAFE (7233) Intro and outro music donated by Billy Morris

    45 min

  5. FEB 18

    Teen Dating Violence, Restraining Orders, and Sexual Abuse, with Shari Genser, Esq

    Did you know that teenagers can experience dating abuse? Before reaching adulthood, 1 in 3 teenagers will experience some form of abuse by their partner. In this episode of Unsilenced, Shari Genser, Esq. will discuss what legal protections are in place for teenaged victims of abuse why victims sometimes drop restraining orders, how difficult it may be for teenagers to come forward about sexual abuse, and much more. *Please note: this is not to be used as legal guidance, please seek services if you want unique, individual legal advice. Are you in an unhealthy relationship and living or working in Morris County, New Jersey?JBWS can help call our 24-Hour Helpline at 1.877.782.2873 or visit⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠jbws.org/services⁠⁠. ⁠⁠⁠ Do you recognize controlling or abusive behaviors in yourself? JBWS can also help. Please call 973.539.7801 or visit⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠jbws.org/jcnv⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you don't live or work in Morris County, NJ please visit⁠https://www.thehotline.org/⁠ or call 800.799.SAFE (7233) Intro and outro music donated by Billy Morris

    23 min

  6. FEB 11

    The Legal System and Domestic Violence with Shari Genser, Esq.

    Handling the legal system can be difficult for victims of domestic violence. In this episode Shari Genser, Esq. offers insight into: Restraining orders and court processesThe difference between domestic violence and dating abuseThe role of power and control in abusive relationships *Please note: this is not to be used as legal guidance, please seek services if you want unique, individual legal advice. Are you in an unhealthy relationship and living or working in Morris County, New Jersey?JBWS can help call our 24-Hour Helpline at 1.877.782.2873 or visit⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠jbws.org/services⁠⁠. ⁠⁠⁠ Do you recognize controlling or abusive behaviors in yourself? JBWS can also help. Please call 973.539.7801 or visit⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠jbws.org/jcnv⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you don't live or work in Morris County, NJ please visit⁠https://www.thehotline.org/⁠ or call 800.799.SAFE (7233) Intro and outro music donated by Billy Morris

    28 min

  7. FEB 4

    Domestic Violence and the Black Community: How Stereotypes Can Silence Victims, with Tamu King, MA

    It is critical to consider race when talking about domestic violence because there are unique barriers that Black victims face. Tamu King, CEO & Founder of The Changed Mind joins this episode of Unsilenced: Real Conversations About Abuse to talk about how: The "Strong Black Woman" stereotype feeds into the dehumanization of Black women and makes it harder for them to leave abusive relationships There is a stigma associated with domestic violence in the Black community that discourages victims from being honest about what they're experiencing This prejudicial belief that Black women are aggressive or angry makes them reluctant to involve law enforcement due to fear of being victimized themselves ⁠Find Tamu King's podcast here.⁠ Content of the Podcast: (0:00) Introduction (05:27 ) Belief Black Women are Aggressive (10:25) Strong Black Woman Stereotype (16:04) Racism and Black Victims (22:06) Response to "I Don't See Color" (26:00) Stigma Associated with Domestic Violence (28:49) Breaking Through The Silence (35:26) Leaving Can Be Dangerous (42:11) About JBWS & Services Are you in an unhealthy relationship and living or working in Morris County, New Jersey? JBWS can help call our 24-Hour Helpline at 1.877.782.2873 or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠jbws.org/services⁠⁠. ⁠⁠ Do you recognize controlling or abusive behaviors in yourself? JBWS can also help. Please call 973.539.7801 or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠jbws.org/jcnv⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you don't live or work in Morris County, NJ please visit https://www.thehotline.org/ or call 800.799.SAFE (7233) Intro and outro music donated by Billy Morris

    44 min

  8. JAN 28

    Fear of a Coffee Cup - Why Context is Crucial to Understanding Stalking, with SPARC

    Would seeing a cup of coffee terrify you? What if it was made exactly how you like it from that new café you just found? What if you found the cup of coffee in your car, still warm, with a nickname you haven’t used in years scrawled on the side?  Julia Holtemeyer of the Stalking Awareness, Prevention and Resource Center (SPARC) joins this episode of Unsilenced to: Explore what constitutes stalking Share real-life examples of stalking - demonstrating why context is imperative to understanding the severity of threats Explain how dangerous stalking can be in an intimate partner relationship Contents: (0:00) Introduction (01:42) Definition of stalking (07:10) Retroactive fear (08:42) Examples of Stalking (09:13) Fear of a Coffee Cup (11:37) Fear of Flower Delivery (12:56) Fear of a Bottle Cap (14:02) Social and Professional Costs (15:28) Why Do People Stalk? (21:34) Stalking and Mental Health Issues (24:11) Stalking and Intimate Partner Relationships (30:50) About JBWS & Services About JBWS and Services: If you are in an unhealthy relationship and living or working in Morris County, New Jersey JBWS can help call our 24-Hour Helpline at 1.877.782.2873 or visit ⁠⁠jbws.org/services. If you notice controlling or unhealthy behaviors in yourself, JBWS can help. Call 973.539.7801 or visit jbws.org/jcnv.  ⁠⁠If you don't live or work in Morris County, NJ please visit https://www.thehotline.org/ or call 800.799.SAFE (7233) Intro and outro music donated by Billy Morris   ABOUT SPARC: SPARC (Stalking Prevention, Awareness, & Resource Center) is a federally funded project providing education and resources about the crime of stalking. SPARC aims to enhance the response to stalking by educating the professionals tasked with keeping stalking victims safe and holding offenders accountable. To stay up-to-date on SPARC’s resources and offerings, follow us on social media (Facebook, Instagram, X/Twitter) @FollowUsLegally and/or subscribe to our quarterly newsletter. SPARC does not provide direct services to victims. We recommend that stalking victims work with a local victim advocate, and the Victim Connect hotline can help connect victims with one. Local victim advocates can help plan for safety, discuss legal options, and connect victims with additional services. Victim Connect can be contacted at https://victimconnect.org/ for online messaging and information, and by phone at 1-855-484-2846. Local domestic violence and sexual assault support services/organizations often work with stalking victims/survivors, even when those victimizations are not part of the stalking. Unfortunately, there are no hotlines and few support service organizations that specifically work with victims/survivors of stalking. The list below includes specific resources mentioned in the podcast and links to learn more about stalking: Short videos on a variety of topics around stalking, including the SLII framework, how stalking and DV intersect, and media portrayals of stalking Specific questions to help identify stalking SLII behaviors More information about how movies and TV portray stalking Dive deeper and learn more about stalking by watching/listening to a recorded webinar training Resources to help support loved ones being stalked  Guides, checklists, tools for professionals supporting stalking victims and holding offenders accountable (victim service providers, law enforcement, prosecutors, judges, corrections, campus professionals, and more) Sample log to help track stalking incidents Considerations for safety planning with stalking victims Free, online risk assessment tool for stalking Learn more about technology safety and privacy, including safety tips, information, and privacy strategies for survivors

    32 min
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There is a culture of silence around the issue of domestic abuse and this podcast is here to break that silence. Run by members of JBWS, a domestic violence agency, Unsilenced: Real Conversations About Abuse doesn't shy away from having difficult conversations about abuse to help others recognize that they may be in unhealthy relationships or using unhealthy behaviors themselves.

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