3AM Reset : Overcoming Porn

3AM Reset : Overcoming Porn

The 3AM Reset Podcast is your guide to permanently overcoming porn addiction. Hosted by Elisha Kolade, who fought this battle for over 13 years, this show fuses Christian wisdom, neuroscience, and coaching to reveal how your brain gets hijacked and how to reclaim control. Each episode delivers practical steps to break free from compulsive behaviors and rewire your mind for success in work, relationships, and life. With over 200 episodes, discover actionable strategies to become your best self. Join the journey to lasting recovery.

Episodes

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This conversation explores the profound impact of explicit content, particularly pornography, on sexual preferences and behaviors.

Elisha discusses how exposure to such content during formative years can shape perceptions and relationships, often leading to behavioral changes that individuals may not consciously recognize.

He emphasizes the importance of understanding these influences and the need for intentional reflection ...

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In this conversation, Elisha explores the multifaceted nature of sex, emphasizing its spiritual dimensions and the profound impact it has on individuals' lives.

He discusses the importance of understanding the three dimensions of human existence—spiritual, soulish, and physical—and how these dimensions interact during sexual encounters. Kolade warns about the potential dangers of engaging in sexual relationships without awar...

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In this conversation, Elisha discusses the relationship between pride and relapse, particularly in the context of addiction recovery.

He emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and humility in maintaining recovery, sharing personal experiences and insights.

The discussion highlights the subtle dangers of pride, the characteristics to watch for, and the need for a strong foundation in faith and community support to sustain heali...

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February 15, 2025 • 21 mins

In this powerful episode, Elisha addresses the struggles of contemplating life and the search for purpose.

He emphasizes the importance of understanding that the battle against suicidal thoughts is fought in the mind and is a spiritual warfare.

Drawing from his personal experiences with addiction and despair, he provides insights on reclaiming control over one's thoughts and life.

Elisha introduces the concept of the 'sword...

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February 7, 2025 • 12 mins

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In this conversation, Elisha Kolade discusses two distinct mindsets that influence recovery from pornography addiction: the Grasshopper mindset and the Lion mindset. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing these mindsets and choosing to adopt the Lion mindset, which embodies strength, empowerment, and the ability to overcome challenges.

Through personal anecdotes and biblical references, Kolade encourages listeners to...

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In this episode, Elisha Kolade explores the profound impact of imagination on personal experiences, particularly in relation to early exposure to pornography and masturbation.

He shares his own journey, detailing how these experiences shaped his identity and behavior.

Elisha emphasizes the importance of making a conscious decision to change, providing practical steps to reconfigure one's imagination and break free from unheal...

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In this episode, Elisha Kolade addresses the struggles many face during the night season, particularly regarding sleep and the temptation to consume pornography.

He shares his personal experiences and emphasizes the importance of transforming the night into a productive time for personal development and spiritual growth.

Elisha discusses the significance of preparation and self-awareness in overcoming these challenges, encouragi...

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In this conversation, Elisha Kolade discusses the three forces that contribute to porn addiction: the environment, the body, and the brain. He emphasizes the importance of self-awareness in overcoming these forces and breaking the cycle of addiction.

Elisha encourages listeners to reflect on their habits and triggers, and to cultivate self-awareness as a crucial skill for personal growth and recovery in 2025.

Chapters

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January 11, 2025 • 13 mins

Breaking free from pornography addiction can feel like an endless cycle of trying and relapsing.

In this powerful episode, the host shares insights gained from 15 years of recovery, introducing the "Triple Threat Point" (TTP) - the crucial intersection of body, mind, and environment that drives addictive behavior.

Through clear examples and practical guidance, you'll discover how understanding these three forces creates a path t...

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Are you hiding your porn addiction from your wife? Living with the constant fear of being discovered? In this crucial episode, we provide a proven blueprint for men who are ready to take the courageous step of disclosing their porn struggle to their partner. Research shows that 80% of marriages can be rebuilt when porn addiction is disclosed voluntarily rather than discovered accidentally. We'll walk you through: The critical diff...
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Standing at rock bottom on New Year's Eve 2005, your host made a choice that changed everything. Now, as 2024 ends, he reveals the raw truth about breaking free from addiction and shares the exact roadmap for your own transformation in 2025. No more empty resolutions – discover the proven four-valley protocol that turns desire for change into lasting freedom. If you're ready to break the chains, this is your wake-up call.
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🔴 MUST WATCH: The Biblical secret that's helping men break free from shame - without years of therapy Tired of hiding? Ashamed of your struggles? This episode reveals the forgotten truth from Romans 8:1 that's setting men free from shame's prison. No more self-condemnation. No more hiding. No more shame. You'll discover: Why shame keeps you trapped in the cycle The identity shift that changes everything How to access true freedom...
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If you're fighting porn with willpower, you're fighting with the wrong weapon. Here's what 99% of Christians miss about Romans 8:13. TRUTH BOMB: You're not a human trying to be spiritual. You're a SPIRIT BEING having a human experience. This one shift transformed my decade-long battle
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December 7, 2024 • 11 mins
🚨 Age 9. That's when it starts now - not 13, not 16. By high school, 35% of young men are already trapped in a hidden epidemic that's destroying their ability to connect, perform, and build real relationships. In this raw, data-driven episode, we expose the accelerating crisis decimating Gen-Z: earlier exposure, faster addiction, younger victims. Learn: Why exposure age dropped from 13 to 9 in just 6 years The 7-year timeline fro...
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November 30, 2024 • 11 mins
Create In Me A Clean Heart Jesus - In this powerful episode, we examine King David's darkest moment - his affair with Bathsheba and the murder of her husband Uriah. After being confronted by the prophet Nathan, David's heartfelt plea in Psalm 51 reveals a broken man seeking divine cleansing. Join us as we explore how even the greatest biblical heroes faced moral failures, and discover timeless lessons about repentance, God's forgiv...
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You don't have to make the same mistake I made. I am not proud of my past, but at the same time I thank God I can use my past to equip the next generation of men.
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November 16, 2024 • 12 mins
Many Christians believe they need a special deliverance service or the laying on of hands to break free from pornography. But is this really what Scripture teaches? In this eye-opening episode, we challenge this common misconception and explore how God has already given us everything we need for victory through His Word and the power of the Holy Spirit. We'll discuss why waiting for someone to 'cast out' a porn addiction might actu...
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Many Christians believe they need a special deliverance service or the laying on of hands to break free from pornography. But is this really what Scripture teaches? In this eye-opening episode, we challenge this common misconception and explore how God has already given us everything we need for victory through His Word and the power of the Holy Spirit. We'll discuss why waiting for someone to 'cast out' a porn addiction might actu...
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In this episode, I'm tackling the most common questions I've received about NoFap throughout my recovery journey. As someone who battled a 14-year porn addiction, I've been where you are, asking these same questions and searching for answers. We'll dive into queries like "How long does it take to see benefits?", "What about wet dreams?", and "Is it normal to feel worse before feeling better?". I'll share my personal experiences and...
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In this episode, we're tackling a topic that might be hitting close to home for you right now: the NoFap flatline. I remember how confused and worried I was when I first experienced this phase during my own recovery journey. Drawing from my personal battle with a 14-year porn addiction, I'll walk you through what the flatline is and why it's actually a crucial part of your healing process. We'll explore strategies I used to not jus...
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