I Meant to Do That - Motivation, Strategies, Communication Insights, Live and Lead Authentically Kerri Goodman

In this episode, we answer the popular and pressing question, "Are my boundaries selfish?"  This is the final episode in our four-part series on setting effective boundaries, and we can't conclude the topic without answering this burning question and asking you a powerful question, "What are you building?"
If you listen to all four episodes, let me know and I'll send you your certificate of completion and my gratitude. The more we can set effective boundaries, the more wonderful this world will be.
Don't forget to download the free PDF to identify your values, build your framework and know what boundaries you need to resolve to be the person you are.
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Have a beautiful day and make something wonderful of it!
Kerri Goodman, Certified Life Coach, ADHD Coach, Certified Behavior Consultant, Mentor, and Believer in God's purpose for you and your FREEDOM!
MA, CPLC, ACC
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What is worse than not setting healthy boundaries? Setting boundaries that don't stick! In today's episode, we will continue to explore effective boundaries and how awareness of our own monsters can instantly add that stickiness we need.
Whether you're making positive changes at work or home, with friends or family, boundaries are part of that process. Let's keep it simple and not overcomplicate things. Let's also remember that we can make decisions, try new things, make mistakes, and adjust as we go. Nobody is perfect! However, your boundaries do need some essential ingredients, and I'll share five key ones in the episode.
We also need to be aware of our own monsters that prevent us from taking courageous and bold moves forward. For me, I can identify five little monsters. Some of these are hardly a nuisance. A couple of these are sticking around and I must get my shoes dirty and trample them when I set boundaries.
The boundary monsters discussed today:
1. Wait! I don't want to be selfish
2. Procrastinate! I can tolerate this a while longer
3.  Rocking the boat! I can't disrupt the status quo
4.  Expensive! I can't afford it
5. Dependents! But they are depending on me.
I believe that our little monsters are spawns of two BIG false beliefs that many of us unknowingly deal with:
1. I am responsible for other people  2. Me and my stuff are not as important (and that's ok).
Awareness is a formidable weapon against these monsters, so let's dig in and talk about it.
The FIVE Essential Ingredients for effective boundaries are not my original discoveries, but a compilation of things I've learned from my favorite boundaries experts like Karla Downing of Change My Relationship. I highly recommend her resources and videos. I've also gleaned wisdom over the years from Dr. Henry Cloud and others. So much credit for my learning and growth belongs to wiser men and women, along with the Holy Spirit who guides me daily.
I'm still on the journey of learning how to set effective boundaries, and with each new life season, I find exciting new challenges and adventures. Gratefully, I now have the foundations and ingredients so that I can set boundaries more quickly and easily. 
Enjoy the episode and remember that we are in this together!
Are you enjoying the podcast? Please help me out by leaving a rating and a review! Share it with someone, too! I'd love to hear your thoughts, and questions, and show ideas. You'll find my email and other contact information links below.
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Kerri Goodman, Certified Professional Coach, ADHD Coach, Certified Behavior Consultant, Mentor, and Believer in God's purpose for you and your FREEDOM!
MA, CPLC, ACC
SHOW LINKS: All the things mentioned in today's episode are right here!
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In today's episode, I'm sharing my original learning that I earned from the School of Hard Knocks. Did you know that I conducted a 30-year experiment to find all the worst ways to set personal boundaries? Yes, that was me. You're welcome!
It's not easy to set effective boundaries, the kind that allows you to live and do and be the way you intended when you set the boundary. And when our boundaries fall flat or seemingly fail, it's discouraging, and demoralizing, and we can wind up in a place worse than where we started. We don't want that.
There are two things that you'll need to set clear and effective boundaries. They aren't obvious, but once you hear them you'll recognize how much you needed to listen to this podcast.
Yes, these two things can absolutely transform how you approach setting boundaries, and how well you can keep them working for you as intended.
Topics included in this episode: boundaries, self-awareness, difficult people, resilience, courage, communication, family, and your worth
Are you enjoying the podcast? Please help me out by leaving a rating and a review! Share it with someone, too! I'd love to hear your thoughts, and questions, and show ideas. You'll find my email and other contact information links below.
Have a beautiful day and make something wonderful of it!
Kerri Goodman, Certified Professional Coach, ADHD Coach, Certified Behavior Consultant, Mentor, and Believer in God's purpose for you and your FREEDOM!
MA, CPLC, ACC
SHOW LINKS: All the things mentioned in today's episode are right here!
Relevant episodes that coordinate well with today's podcast:
3 keys for redefining relationships without controlling people
when people resist your good changes: how to respond
Let's be friends! I would love to connect in a more personal way. Get more encouragement, strategies, and exclusive opportunities delivered each month. I'll never overwhelm your email inbox (who has time for that?) and it's super easy to unsubscribe. Here is the link: Exclusive Podcast Email Community
 
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For forty years, I struggled with setting and holding boundaries. Forty years is a long time. With confidence, I can say that learning the truth about boundaries and learning how to set effective boundaries has transformed my life.  
Unpopular fact: setting boundaries isn't easy. Talk is easy. These days, it seems that everyone is talking about boundaries. But do they really know how to do it?
What if you struggle with:
People Pleasing
Imposter Syndrome
Perfectionism
Self-worth
Lack of positive experience
ADHD
Setting boundaries can feel overwhelming, especially when you struggle with any or all of the above challenges. I know this first-hand. Simplistic, superficial, half-baked answers won't work for us. Actually, they won't work for anyone. Most people don't know how to set effective boundaries.
What if you have family or a work situation where your boundaries are constantly challenged? What if you've tried before and experienced criticism, pushback, and feel less than confident to try again? If you're like many women I've coached, you may believe that boundaries just don't work. But it may mean that you weren't creating effective boundaries. It could be that just one or two features were missing. It could be that some pre-work wasn't completed. Trust me, boundaries work. It's going to take some work, curiosity, time, and courage. It will be 100% worth it.
Once I reached the end of my rope, I put everything into learning the truth about boundaries. I needed to unlearn some things too, like:
Setting boundaries are selfish
God wants me to put myself last
Good people will reject me
I can't trust myself to set boundaries
Today's episode is part one of the Essential Boundaries series. No matter your past experience with boundaries, you will want to listen to every episode because:
Boundaries are essential
As life brings change, we will experience new boundary challenges
It's my desire to bring you some of the most helpful ideas, truths, strategies, and inspiration I've learned over the years about boundaries. I hope the stories inspire you, and that God's word empowers you to create your own plan for bringing effective boundaries forward for more focus, space, and freedom.
Are you enjoying the podcast? Please help me out by leaving a rating and a review! Share it with someone, too! I'd love to hear your thoughts, and questions, and show ideas. You'll find my email and other contact information links below.
Have a beautiful day and make something wonderful of it!
Kerri Goodman, Certified Life Coach, ADHD Coach, Certified Behavior Consultant, Mentor, and Believer in God's purpose for you and your FREEDOM!
MA, CPLC, ACC
SHOW LINKS: All the things mentioned in today's episode are right here!
Let's be friends! I would love to connect in a more personal way. Get more encouragement, strategies, and exclusive opportunities delivered each month. I'll never overwhelm your email inbox (who has time for that?) and it's super easy to unsubscribe. Here is the link: Exclusive Podcast Email Community
 
Are you ready for more “I Meant to Do That” success and freedom personally and professionally? Learn more about coaching, groups, and consulting at Kerri Goodman Coaching  https://www.kerrigoodman.com/
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Episode 26: There's a whole other way to live on the "other side of the street", and I can't wait to tell you more about it. While everyone else is churning out the work harder, strive more, be better and earn your pay content, I'm here to tell you it's time to abide and thrive.
On one side, it's all up to you, and most likely you'll never quite feel like you're enough. On the other side, there is room to be, space to relax, and freedom to live authentically. What's the difference? I think you'll have to listen to find out.
I'm a goal-setter, a driven dreamer, and love learning. Certainly, there is nothing wrong with planning, putting in effort, and caring about excellence. However, all these good things can become problematic and draining when we are over-focused on "making ourselves the best we can be."
When we focus on fixing ourselves, we can easily fall into a trap of self-reliance and self-condemnation.  We may start to believe that our own efforts and self-improvement are what makes us acceptable to God. This can lead to feelings of guilt, shame, and frustration when we inevitably fall short of our own expectations.
Additionally, focusing on fixing ourselves can distract us from the truth of our new identity in Christ. We are already forgiven, righteous, and complete in Him.
I really can't wait for you to hear this message, as it may be exactly what you need to set yourself up for more freedom, purpose, and motivation in 2024! 
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Have a beautiful day and make something wonderful of it!
Kerri Goodman, Certified Life Coach, ADHD Coach, Certified Behavior Consultant, Mentor, and Believer in God's purpose for you and your FREEDOM!
MA, CPLC, ACC
SHOW LINKS: All the things mentioned in today's episode are right here!
ABIDE WORD STUDY
What does it mean to abide? Is it hard? 12 Minute Video:
https://andrewfarley.org/videos/the-truth-about-abiding/
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Did your mom tell you there'd be days (or weeks) like this? With your supercharged resilience, you can bounce back from unexpected changes and catastrophes like a tennis ball. Or at least, you won't be knocked out flat with adrenal fatigue or overwhelmed by brain fog. The key? Capitalize on your strengths. You already have a signature trait or two that helps you bounce back from adversity. Let's cultivate that strength with three simple strategies that won't cost you anything.
In today's episode, let's get a little nerdy, just enough to discover three qualities of a resilient person. Why? So that you can discover your top resilience trait and make the most of it.
Resilience helps you 
bounce back from hardship
manage stress better
face problems while remaining calm
Listen along as I share more with examples and personal stories, including a snapshot of one way that I self-sabotaged during a challenging time. Today I have three simple and cost-effective (free) ways to grow your resilience that I've been using over the past ten years. I know that they work and that anyone can learn how to strengthen resilience.
You can only grow so tall. You can only get so smart. You can keep growing resilience and emotional intelligence your whole lifetime. Not everyone wants to, but we do. Yes, it takes some self-reflection, attention, and consistent practice, but the pay-off is peace, calm, focus, stronger relationships, more energy, and a brain that says, "Thank you. This feels so much better." 
Not only will you enjoy these benefits, but you're family, friends, co-workers, and boss will appreciate the more resilient you, too.
Are you enjoying the podcast? Please help me out by leaving a rating and a review! Share it with someone, too! I'd love to hear your thoughts, and questions, and show ideas. You'll find my email and other contact information links below.
Have a beautiful day and make something wonderful of it!
Kerri Goodman, Certified Life Coach, ADHD Coach, Certified Behavior Consultant, Mentor, and Believer in God's purpose for you and your FREEDOM!
MA, CPLC, ACC
SHOW LINKS: All the things mentioned in today's episode are right here!
Episodes related to this topic:
02: Explore How Values and Drivers Can Sneakily Sabotage Success https://imeanttodothatpodcast.podbean.com/e/02exploring-how-values-and-drivers-can-sneakily-sabotage-success-what-to-look-for-when-you-re-stuck-in-your-goals/
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