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It's Not You, It's Them...But It Might Be You with LalalaLetMeExplain

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Lalalaletmeexplain is here to answer all YOUR questions around love, dating, sex, and relationships. Her unfiltered advice is not only candid and insightful, but she delivers you tough love when needed. Having swam the depths of the dating pool herself, Lala’s advice comes from a place of experience and expertise.

On Mondays Lala will be addressing a hot topic of the week, whether it’s a discussion around female misogyny blowing up your timeline or the arguments around Sex Education in schools that’s splashed across the headlines. Wednesdays she’s tackling your issues and conundrums around love, sex and relationships and on Fridays Lala will be diving into your dating dilemmas, red flag alerts, instant ick reactions and sharing her weekend reminders. And twice a month she’ll be joined by a guest to deliberate your questions.

Lala is the author of the best-selling dating guide Block, Delete, Move On, OK Mag’s resident agony aunt, a sexual health and relationship educator and she’s a social worker with over a decade of experience in child safeguarding and child protection. It's Not You, It's Them...But it Might Be You is the trustworthy, down to earth advice that you've been waiting for!

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Bidding Farewell to ICKs
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33 mins
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Seasonal Dating Trends: Should We Be Listening?!
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The Law Of Attraction: Can It Help You?
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19 mins
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The Pain Of Heartbreak: What NOT To Do
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22 mins
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Karate Kicks, Wheelie Bin Ice Baths and Slow Cooker Icks
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23 mins
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21 mins
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19 mins
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26 mins
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Nov 17, 2023
24 mins
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Overly Keen Dad, Faking It and Is It Me?
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18 mins
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Ghosting: It's Really NOT You!
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20 mins
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23 mins
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Nov 3, 2023
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16 mins
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Let's Normalize Not Having Children
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22 mins
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22 mins
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Abusive Father-In-Law, Office Lust and Schoolgirl Fantasies
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Oct 18, 2023
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19 mins
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Oct 16, 2023
Oct 16, 2023
30 mins
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Oct 13, 2023
Oct 13, 2023
26 mins
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Oct 11, 2023
Oct 11, 2023
20 mins
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Why We Need To Talk About Tate
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Oct 9, 2023
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27 mins
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Apathy for Asthmatics, Perspiration Peeves and Titty Tuesday Icks
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21 mins
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Casual Sex, Body Count Bias and a Situationship Gone Wrong
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21 mins
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When Age Gaps Become Problematic
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24 mins
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Bed Making, D**k Slapping and Second Date Icks
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23 mins
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24 mins
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Videoing Consent, Exes Nudes and Original Source on the Balls with Sharon Gaffka
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20 mins
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37 mins
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Track Your Cycle to Change Your Life
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24 mins
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Polyamory Red Flag and The Power Of Forest Gump
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22 mins
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17 mins
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23 mins
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Feeld, Female Misogynist and an Overly Familiar Ex
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24 mins
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The Lighthouse Family Ick, Misogynist Red Flags and The Lasagne Virgin
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22 mins
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Is Porn Making Men Bad in Bed?
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23 mins
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Navigating Life with ADHD
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25 mins
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Water Sports and Dating Your Friends’ Old Flames With Grace Campbell
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21 mins
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Girl Code and the Disappearing Willy Washer
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20 mins
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Body Counts - Why People Who Use Them Against Women Are Idiots
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26 mins
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Lord Coldimort Icks, Naked Panic and a Failed Housewarming
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18 mins
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Bisexual Boyfriends and X Rated Over Sharing
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18 mins
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Not Guilty Doesn't Mean Innocent: A Discussion About the Justice System and Rape with Grace Campbell
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Aug 14, 2023
22 mins
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Narcissism, Stag Woes and Finding Out He's Married
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Aug 9, 2023
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23 mins
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Understanding Limerence: From Infatuation to Obsession
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Aug 7, 2023
20 mins
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F**kboy Replies, Welcome Breeze Icks, and a Big Update
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26 mins
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One Night Stands, Fancying Colleagues and Dating as a Mum
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20 mins
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What About Men?
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27 mins
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Negging Trolls, Needing Space and a Mail Order Bride?
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Jul 26, 2023
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24 mins
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The Problem With Female Misogynist Grifters
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Jul 24, 2023
Jul 24, 2023
23 mins
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The OG of Ick Stories
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Jul 21, 2023
22 mins
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Squirting, Sleeping With Brothers and Labia Woes
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Jul 19, 2023
Jul 19, 2023
21 mins
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Is sex education controversial?
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Jul 17, 2023
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19 mins
Introducing: It's Not You, It's Them...But It Might Be You with LalalaLetMeExplain
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