Invincible Life - It's time to live the life you deserve

Larry Cornett, Ph.D.
Invincible Life - It's time to live the life you deserve

Advice to help you live the life you deserve! I’m Dr. Larry Cornett, a psychologist who loves to study and understand what inspires and motivates people to live their best lives. I spent decades in the corporate world and thought climbing the career ladder to become an executive would make me happy. Spoiler alert: It did not. I found myself wanting more, so I’ve spent the past 15+ years creating the life I want. In this podcast, I share what I've learned with you. I hope my advice will help you pursue the life of your dreams so you can be happier, healthier, and more fulfilled. newsletter.invinciblelife.me

  1. MAR 19

    🎙️ Finding Balance while Fighting the Good Fight (Issue 127)

    I’m not doing well. Every day, I read about some new horrific event in the news. It stresses me out, and sometimes it ruins my day. I’m having difficulty focusing on work, relaxing, and sleeping. My wife is managing this better than I am. She doesn’t steep in it like I do. She's worried about my emotional health and gave me some suggestions for dealing with it all. So, I’m adjusting things and trying to find a better balance. Below are some ways I’m trying to have a healthier relationship with staying informed and taking action. I go into a lot more detail in the podcast audio, so scroll up, hit play, and listen. 10 Ways to Pace Yourself * Begin with more peaceful mornings (e.g., no news, no phone—just coffee and journaling) * Engage in healthy self-care like reading comfort books, walks, and meditation (not junk food, binge-watching, drugs, or alcohol) * Exercise more often (we should be anyway) * Take walks in nature (I’ve talked about the benefits of “green exercise” before) * Listen to music you love * Take intentional news breaks * Spend more time with friends and family * Create beauty in your life (e.g., gardening, knitting, writing poetry, creating art, making music) * Research and learn from more credible and objective sources * Ground News is a platform that makes it easy to compare news sources, read between the lines of media bias, and break free from algorithms. Read more about their bias ratings system * 1440 News is a daily newsletter that aims to provide unbiased news summaries in a concise format * You’ll find the Associated Press in almost every list of unbiased news outlets * Reuters is another news source that’s unbiased in its news reporting * News coverage on BBC is pretty balanced, making it one of the best options for unbiased stories * Tangle is an award-winning media organization that covers the biggest political stories in the U.S. by summarizing arguments from the right, left, and center (then "their take") * Pay attention to objective data from your life (e.g., real evidence of local prices, what’s happening to your investments, policy changes you experience, friends and family losing their jobs). * Create plans to calm your panicked mind We are in constant fight-or-flight mode when stressed by the barrage of negative news and events. Our poor body and brain can’t distinguish between this reaction vs. being chased by a bear. It just dumps adrenaline and cortisol into our system all day. Making plans helps calm your mind. Taking steps to take care of yourself is essential, too. You’ll feel better knowing what you will do vs. living with generalized stress and fear. I’m Larry Cornett, a Freedom Coach who works with ambitious professionals to help them reclaim their power, become invincible, and create new opportunities for their work and lives. Do more of what you love and less of what you hate! 📕 Check out my new The Invincible Daily Journals! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newsletter.invinciblelife.me/subscribe

    37 min
  2. FEB 19

    🎙️ Hope for the Best, But Plan for the Worst (Issue 123)

    This seems strangely familiar I studied a bit of history in college, and it affected me forever. In particular, one semester, we studied Hitler’s rise to power. I actually did the required reading (believe it or not 🤣), so I see the disturbing parallels between what happened then and what is happening now in the U.S. My goal with this article and episode isn’t to scare you or create a sense of panic. But I’m also not going to stick my head in the sand or expect you to do the same. Of course, we can’t spend our days doomscrolling. We can’t skip work or school. We have to live our lives! However, we shouldn’t ignore what history has taught us, either. The actions being taken in our country are alarming. I’m not a distant spectator. The continuing layoffs and firings within various agencies are impacting people I love dearly. Mind you, these are not well-informed decisions. You may have already read about the firing mistakes they are trying to desperately reverse. This administration’s actions are brutal, politically targeted, personally motivated, and careless. * Trump officials fired nuclear staff not realizing they oversee the country’s weapons stockpile * Trump Administration Accidentally Fired Bird Flu Response Workers, Report Says—Here’s Where Layoffs Are Being Walked Back * 'DOGE in practice': Outrage follows 'boilerplate' MAGA firing of disabled veteran * USAID Worker Sues Trump After 'Pregnant Wife is Denied Medevac' * Musk's DOGE cuts based more on political ideology than real cost savings so far * How Elon Musk boosted false USAID conspiracy theories to shut down global aid * USAID staffers describe colleagues abandoned in violence in Congo as DOGE ends help programs * One Agency Tried to Regulate SpaceX. Now Its Fate Could Be in Elon Musk’s Hands * Elon Musk’s DOGE Sparks Outrage by Leaking Secret Data Good people are pushing back and fighting the good fight. Federal judges are blocking the federal freezes, the birthright citizenship order, and DOGE accessing the Treasury data. Citizens are marching to protest Trump. And many Americans are pledging to stop making any purchases for a full 24 hours on February 28th and go on a nationwide shutdown on March 15th. This is all great, but we know things will get worse. And when things go south, they go south quickly. Remember: Hitler dismantled Germany’s democracy in 53 days. “In one of the most astonishing political transformations in the history of democracy, Hitler set about destroying a constitutional republic through constitutional means. What follows is a step-by-step account of how Hitler systematically disabled and then dismantled his country’s democratic structures and processes in less than two months’ time—specifically, one month, three weeks, two days, eight hours, and 40 minutes. The minutes, as we will see, mattered.” (source) So, if things go from bad to worse, you won’t have much time to prepare if you wait too long to create a backup plan to take care of yourself and your loved ones. I recently read an excellent post on LinkedIn about how to protect yourself and be prepared. It inspired me to create this preparation list for you. Some actions to consider * Freeze your credit report with the three major reporting agencies. Contrary to Musk’s initial lies, it was revealed that Treasury data was left vulnerable when they mistakenly and briefly gave a member of the DOGE team the power to alter a sensitive federal payments database. DOGE is now seeking access to IRS systems. * Place a security freeze with Equifax * Freeze your Experian credit file * Place a credit freeze with TransUnion * Secure your communications. Ask the people in Ukraine how daily life changes when you lose the internet. One of the first moves Russia made was to cut access to the internet and mobile networks, which left Ukrainians living in a world only fed by Russian propaganda. Luckily, Elon Musk saved the day with Starlink, right? Well, Russian operatives claimed to have access to Starlink despite Musk's assurances that only Ukraine was using the service. Also, in September last year, Ukrainian forces downed a Russian drone that had a Starlink terminal integrated with its systems. So, I recommend establishing secure ways to communicate with your family and loved ones now. For example, Signal uses end-to-end encryption to keep your conversations safe. However, if we lose all means of communication, I hope you have prepared a backup plan to reconnect with your family. I wrote an article about that a few weeks ago. * Protect your finances. Given DOGE’s unhealthy interest in accessing the data of the Treasury and IRS systems, we should be careful about protecting our assets. For example, if all your money is tied up in a single U.S. bank and assets are frozen, what will you do? There are a few steps you can take to protect yourself and ensure you have access to some funds to get by until things get sorted. * Diversify by placing money in different banks and even a safe international account. Always do your homework to ensure you are using reputable, trustworthy financial services. * Have some spending cash on hand if electronic systems are locked or shut down. You may need enough to cover gas, groceries, travel expenses, etc. * Have payment systems funded that you could use if necessary (e.g., Apple Pay, Venmo). NerdWallet has a good article on peer-to-peer payment apps. It is probably best to avoid payment apps or services under the control of Musk or Zuckerberg. They’ve proven that they aren’t on our side. * Diversify your income streams. I discuss this topic often with my solopreneur audience. Your income is fragile if you rely on one primary source. For example, as the U.S. economy and job market struggle, I’m glad I have coaching clients worldwide. Thanks to the internet, working remotely for clients and employers in other countries has never been easier. But, if you’re busy with an existing job, I know it’s challenging to find the time to spin up additional income streams, especially internationally. However, do your research and be prepared to move quickly later if necessary (e.g., your employer conducts a mass layoff). * Be prepared to barter. If the dollar collapses, we can always revert to the good ol’ barter system. Consider what physical goods and services you could offer in your local community in exchange for things you might need (e.g., food). For example, I know someone who cuts and splits firewood for an older neighbor in exchange for some of the wood to use in his own woodstove. * Be prepared for an emergency. We all experienced this during the COVID lockdowns. Many have also experienced serious emergencies after earthquakes, tornadoes, wildfires, blizzards, and hurricanes. Living in regions where this is possible teaches you to be prepared. As Americans, we can’t imagine martial law being declared. Still, it has happened before in the U.S. (e.g., after the Pearl Harbor attack and the San Francisco earthquake of 1906) and has definitely happened in other countries. It makes sense to have enough food, water, medical supplies, etc., to care for yourself and your family if we experience another lockdown with limited access to local shopping. Where I live, we’ve dealt with forest fires and earthquakes, so we have food and water stores, plus a backup generator for power and heating our home. * Maintain your health and fitness. We’re in for a long, unpleasant, stressful experience. It’s hard enough to deal with the stress of this every day. It's even harder if you’re ill and breaking down mentally and emotionally. Work out, take walks, do yoga and meditate, talk with friends, get enough sleep, and keep yourself as fit and healthy as possible to fight the good fight. * Strengthen local relationships. When we faced local emergencies, our neighborhood was great at helping each other out (e.g., gas for generators, shoveling snow, cutting trees). Humanity has built small, local communities since the dawn of civilization. We turn to each other when in need, support each other, protect each other, etc. Building stronger local relationships and getting to know your neighbors is never a bad idea. * Secure your vital documents. Some weird stuff has already happened with some people’s birth certificates and passports (e.g., transgender and nonbinary folks). Make sure your online documents are stored safely and encrypted. Keep your paper documents stored in a fire-resistant document safe and ready to go if you need to leave your home (e.g., passports, birth certificates, social security cards, financial statements, family photos). * Be ready to travel. Speaking of passports, check how many years you have left on yours. I would be nervous if my passport would soon expire. Lots of people are updating their passports and travel documents, so the wait could be considerable if you need yours later. Some folks are renewing their passports even if they have a few years left on them. I’m not trying to be dramatic, but no one believes they will ever have to leave their home. However, I have a friend who had to flee Iran with their family during the Islamic Revolution of 1979. Lives changed forever there. Just like being prepared for an emergency, you should have a plan if things go from bad to worse (e.g., before travel restrictions are enforced). Know where you will go. For example, one of my friends has an apartment in Mexico and is ready to travel there in a heartbeat. * What is your line in the sand? I’ve been discussing this with my family and friends. When do things cross the point of no return? What event would trigger your warning bells and signal you no longer feel safe here? I know some people feel pretty privileged and secure. They can’t image anything bad ever happening to them. Well, that must be nice! However, some of my friends are already nervous and very worried about

    32 min
  3. JAN 22

    🎙️ How Journaling Can Help with Stress (Issue 119)

    We are experiencing a stressful time in America. It doesn’t matter who you support or who you voted for; the chaos and anxiety of this moment affect all of us. People are angry, worried, stressed, and fearful, which can spill over into their everyday interactions with friends, loved ones, neighbors, and coworkers. And it’s not just the U.S., dear readers and listeners. I have friends and family all over the world, and they are worried, too. They’re worried about how things will change here, but they are also dealing with their own local uncertainty, political challenges, and dangers. So yeah, we are all going through a lot and need to process our feelings and the physical impact in healthy ways. Yesterday, my Invincible Career community had its first live meeting of the year. * A few of us talked about how we use intense exercise to manage our stress and depression. * Some create music to deal with their anxiety and stress. * Some create art. * And some of us write. I use exercise and outdoor activities to stay sane. But I’m a writer, too (obviously). I write a ton of nonfiction (e.g., newsletters, articles, books), but I also write a lot of fiction (e.g., stories, poetry). I also start every single day with morning journaling. It helps me process my thoughts, regulate my emotions, and feel more hopeful about the future. I’ve discussed the power of writing and journaling, which you can read in the article linked below. From the Harvard Business Review: A certain kind of guided, detailed writing can not only help us process what we’ve been through and assist us as we envision a path forward; it can lower our blood pressure, strengthen our immune systems, and increase our general well-being. Expressive writing can result in a reduction in stress, anxiety, and depression; improve our sleep and performance; and bring us greater focus and clarity. (source) In today’s podcast episode for Invincible Life, I explain in more detail how and why I created my new morning journals, how to use them to get the most out of morning journaling, and why journaling is so good for you and your well-being! I wanted the journals to support the personal ebb and flow of life, the daily ebb and flow of creativity and energy, and the seasonal ebb and flow of what matters to you in those moments of time. The journal covers below reflect this seasonal design. Scroll up, hit play, and listen. I’d love to hear how you’ve used journaling — if you’re willing to share in the comments. I’m Larry Cornett, a Freedom Coach who works with you to optimize your career, business, and life. My mission is to help you become a more "Invincible You" so you can live your life on your terms instead of being controlled by someone else's rules. My wife and I live in Northern California near Lake Tahoe. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newsletter.invinciblelife.me/subscribe

    38 min
  4. 12/18/2024

    🎙️ Create an Emergency Fund (Issue 115)

    Guess how much a provider billed me for a recent medical expense (an angiogram)? Oh, I should first explain that I live in the U.S. You know, the country that thinks it’s okay to put people into debt for healthcare? Okay, if you’re done guessing, I’ll tell you. $27,000.00. Yep, $27K. So, it got me thinking about the importance of an emergency fund. It’s money set aside to cover significant, unexpected expenses. For example: * Medical expenses (like mine) * Home repairs * Replacing a major appliance * Major car repairs * Emergency trips (e.g., if a loved one is ill) The funny thing is, none of this should be “unexpected.” When you’re young, you don’t know better. But, as you grow older, you realize that any and all of these types of major expenses will occur eventually. We’ve encountered many of these expenses before — some recently. * We had a plumbing leak that, luckily, occurred right after we came home from a vacation. But, it was an unexpected expense that we couldn’t put off. * A few days later, my son’s car wouldn’t start. Unfortunately, it was more than just the starter and will turn out to be a $3K expense. * Our oven stopped working a few months ago (more repairs). * Earlier this year, the main water line to our house sprung a big, expensive leak. Man, I hate plumbing! Luckily, this isn’t our first rodeo. We’ve been down this road of emergency expenses many times in our lives. So, we’ve learned to put money aside for an emergency fund vs. dumping expenses onto credit cards with their high interest rates. However, telling people they should create an emergency fund is much easier than making it happen. Where does this “extra money” come from? How can you save to fund the fund? Here are a few ideas: * Automatically put a small percentage of your paycheck into the fund. * If you have a cash-back credit card, put those rewards into your fund and pretend you don’t have that money. * Cut some expenses and redirect what you were spending into the fund. For example, I used to spend $2-3K/year at Starbucks! So, I stopped doing that and used the money for more important things. * Review your monthly subscriptions, put some on hold, and cancel others. For example, 25% of households spend more than $75 monthly on streaming subscriptions. * Americans spend an average of $300/month dining out. Reduce that expense by making more home meals and putting the savings into your emergency fund. * Sell some things around the house you need to get rid of anyway (e.g., old laptops, electronics, clothing) and put the earnings into the fund. Where should you keep your emergency fund? It has to be easy to access, but you don’t want your money just sitting there waiting for an emergency to occur. So, a high-yield savings account is a good place to store the funds so they can keep growing. No one enjoys unexpected expenses. But, unfortunately, they are a part of life. Having an emergency fund takes away a bit of the pain. ➡️ I go into more detail in the audio, so scroll up, hit play, and listen. 30 for $20! ☎️ Schedule a call and get 30 minutes of coaching for just $20 on any career topic you want to cover. Save $177 off the regular price! Note: This offer is only available for new clients who haven’t worked with me before. I’m Larry Cornett, a Freedom Coach who works with you to optimize your career, business, and life. My mission is to help you become a more "Invincible You" so you can live your life on your terms instead of being controlled by someone else's rules. I live in Northern California near Lake Tahoe with my wife and our Great Dane. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newsletter.invinciblelife.me/subscribe

    24 min
  5. 11/20/2024

    🎙️ Great Relationships Have this Balance (Issue 111)

    Over the 33+ years of our marriage, my wife and I have noticed something: * When I’m down, she’s up. * When she’s down, I’m up. We never intentionally tried to do this or discussed that we should do it. It just naturally happened. We also have people in our lives (or past lives) who weren’t in balance with us like this. So, when one person struggled (e.g., depressed, worried, scared), the other person piled on and the situation spiraled down. So, we’ve been paying attention to this dynamic in our relationship and the relationships of others (e.g., our friends and family). When couples don’t provide this counterbalance for each other, the relationship isn’t very healthy. In fact, we’ve watched relationships fail because the couple was in sync in all the wrong ways. In this episode, we share some examples of how we’ve done this for each over the years and how beneficial it’s been for our relationship. Scroll up, hit play, and listen. 30 for $20! ☎️ Schedule a call and get 30 minutes of coaching for just $20 on any career topic you want to cover. Save $177 off the regular price! Note: This offer is only available for new clients who haven’t worked with me before. I’m Larry Cornett, a Freedom Coach who works with you to optimize your career, business, and life. My mission is to help you take complete control of your work and life so you can become a more “Invincible You.” I live in Northern California near Lake Tahoe with my wife and our Great Dane. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newsletter.invinciblelife.me/subscribe

    30 min
  6. 10/16/2024

    🎙️ Why Is It So Hard to Make Friends? (Issue 106)

    My old friends canceled on me yet again. We’ve been trying to have lunch or dinner together for years, and it's pretty frustrating. 31% of Americans say they find it challenging to make new friends. I totally get it. I’ve struggled to make new friends, especially after moving away from the Bay Area in California about eight years ago and leaving the corporate world to work as a solopreneur about 14 years ago. My old social circles have slowly slipped away. Many people I know have talked about how hard it is to make friends as you grow older. It was a lot easier while we were in school and during our early career years. But, once people got married and started families, the free time in our lives evaporated. It’s hard to make time for recreation and meeting new people when you’re working long hours and raising a family! Another unfortunate complication in the U.S. has made it even more difficult to make new friends or even maintain old friendships: the political divide that has torn this country apart for the past eight years. People’s views have polarized, and social media has made it worse. I know some folks who are no longer talking to their parents, other close relatives, or old friends. It’s pretty bad. I’ve lost friends because I won’t tolerate people who are racist, sexist, or homophobic. I had no idea that some of these people held these beliefs until it became okay to blast hate-filled rhetoric all over social media. Now, I know. So, how do you make friends in this modern world? Yes, you can make online friends all over the world, and I have. But it’s not the same as having local friends. It’s really nice to have a drink with a friend, enjoy a nice dinner with another couple, or go hiking with some interesting new folks. I explore this topic more in this podcast episode. So, scroll up, hit play, and listen. What has worked well for you? Leave a comment and help us out! I’m Larry Cornett, a Freedom Coach who works with you to optimize your career, business, and life. My mission is to help you become a more "Invincible You" so you can live your life on your terms instead of being controlled by someone else's rules. I live in Northern California near Lake Tahoe with my wife and our Great Dane. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newsletter.invinciblelife.me/subscribe

    30 min

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    Advice to help you live the life you deserve! I’m Dr. Larry Cornett, a psychologist who loves to study and understand what inspires and motivates people to live their best lives. I spent decades in the corporate world and thought climbing the career ladder to become an executive would make me happy. Spoiler alert: It did not. I found myself wanting more, so I’ve spent the past 15+ years creating the life I want. In this podcast, I share what I've learned with you. I hope my advice will help you pursue the life of your dreams so you can be happier, healthier, and more fulfilled. newsletter.invinciblelife.me

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