Looootttttaaaaaa feelings about gender this week, huh folks? We’re discussing the “gender wars,” how you can assist in the political... more

Come one, come all, to the wholesome dumpster we raccoons cluster in also known as the Ask A Sub discord... more

A caller wants to know how to use their kinky toolkit to address a recently resurfaced memory of past trauma,... more

C'mon guys, a tale as old as time. We’ve all been there - your Dom is seeing other subs, and... more

A sub calls in wondering what to do when you’ve been in multiple relationships where the kink slowly vanishes over... more

You guys — we did it — we trapped a true switch for switch poly couple with our big butterfly... more

Get your spot in the Conscious Kink 2 Incubator and learn more about it here. Registration ends 9/27 at 11:59pm... more

We’ve all been there — an on again, off again dynamic that keeps us trapped in a cycle where we... more

More and more D/s couples are having to put their dynamics on pause lately, and we want to give you... more

We talk a lot on this podcast about feeling “queer enough,” and a straight passing queer couple wonders how to... more

Writer, educatrix, and all around kink community badass Tina Horn joined us to talk all about hardcore kinks and fetishes... more

GENDER!! Ever hear of it?! Lina’s popping off on the presidential election, right-wing weird shit, and the subtle leak of... more

In a transmission from God’s hot car, Lina discusses the relationship between kink and chronic pain, and advises a Spoonie... more

We all know about Fake Doms, people on dating apps who co-opt the language of BDSM to push a misogynistic... more

Why are subs and kinky people so prone to tripping out on what the future could be? Well, as the... more

Dogs and cats, living together, mass hysteria! When can a sub be a Dom? A caller wants to know when... more

In this preview of Deep Dive, Lina chats with Casey Tanner, @queersextherapy, about their new book Feel It All. Topics... more

What happens when you’re criss crossing all your red string a la Charlie Day while researching D/s to broaden the... more

This month for pride, join your very own fave bisexual goblin for a wide ranging AMA! That’s right, I answered... more

This week, a married couple struggles with the ways D/s sometimes outwardly looks like the oppressive gender roles they were... more

Lina gives some tender yet protective advice to a 20-year-old sub looking to start their kink journey. To support the... more

R.O. Kwon stopped by the pod this week to talk about her new book Exhibit, a tale about kink,... more

Our Deep Dive guest this month is many things — a kink/rope organizer, an amazing friend, a top-tier emoji-reactor, and... more

A sub calls in wondering how to “do” submission right, and Lina shares some wisdom about how to avoid submissive... more

Age Play is considered by some to be one of the most taboo kinks out there, but what if it... more

Today’s episode is brought to you by our friends at Feeld, the dating app for the curious! The theme of... more

That’s me in the corner… that’s me in the… somewhat challenging aftercare predicament? A listener calls in about how to... more

Bae Leche dropped by the pod to talk about being a non-monogamous mom, dating while pregnant, and new corners of... more

Kink arrives in your life looking like a problem, but it’s really a solution. In this episode, Lina leads a... more

A listener asks the age-old question of where the line is with public humiliation kinks and involving bystanders, and Lina... more

How can you date again after a D/s relationship turns abusive? You start by dating your intuition.   To support... more

A listener calls in after someone told them saying they are kinky means they are probably not looking for anything... more

I’ve been through some shit lately and wanted to share the ways people have supported me so you can support... more

Disability advocate, sex toy creator, and host of Disability After Dark Andrew Gurza joins us to talk all about non-binary... more

A sub is concerned that her Dom’s wife is going to veto their dynamic and wonders how she can modify... more

So you've got somebody to do 24/7 with - great! Now how the hell do you narrow down all the... more

This week a caller on the autism spectrum and his partner with ADD wonder if there is a link between... more

Due to unforeseen circumstances (we got COVID), in lieu of this week’s scheduled episode please enjoy this rerun of a... more

First Lina delivers a hot take about how women who sleep with men can become marginalized within kink, then teases... more

We’re back! And we’re kicking purity culture in the pants!!  Get info about the Friday 1/26 Deep Dive here! To... more

A sub calls in asking how to make amends for past mistakes. Spoiler alert: you do not have to walk... more

The words filth and perversion barely begin to scratch the surface of what's on offer in this interview with Empress... more

A sub is concerned about sending the wrong message when telling Doms she doesn't have hard limits. What to do?... more

Bisexual polyamorous writer Gab Alexa joins me to discuss bi-erasure, queer baiting, and her spicy time at the infamous swinger’s... more

Hey, it's your real life calling! The one where you're not sleeping on an air mattress in a musty basement... more

A listener wants to know the answer to a so-called googleable question - what the heck is a play party,... more

Get more Folsom info from this pamphlet. Special thanks to Cactus Cult Leather, BunnyLeather.com, Sylvan and Milton, SF K9... more

Are you or a loved one affected by Goodest Girl Syndrome, aka the desire to be the absolute best in... more

This month’s Deep Dive was with boudoir photographer and all around artiste Alex Kacha. We discussed self care, the healing... more

A sub loves the play parties she attends with her Dom, but is struggling with watching him play with his... more

Follow KD: Instagram | Website Follow Kink Out: Instagram | Website Get KD’s bootblacking starter kit recs here. To support... more

What do you do when a very special dynamic leaves your life? This week a broken-hearted brat wants to know... more

Cue up some disco and put on your finest assless chaps, because we’re reviewing the history of The Folsom Street... more

If you’re reading this, you have a pelvic floor! And Dr. Rachel McCarthy-Moya is here to tell you all about... more

A refresher on red flags and the radical notion that you don’t have to put up with assholes to get... more

Thoughts on respecting all the connections in your polyamorous ecosystem when the sub swoons come calling. Our next Deep Dive... more

A listener wants to know how to navigate putting a dynamic on pause when one partner is Going Through It,... more

Vienna Farlow The Cuntsultant dropped by for an interview about the Fertility Awareness Method and the weird shift from not... more

This week we're talking about how to approach conflict in a way that honors your D/s dynamic. So few of us... more

Hurts So Good author Leigh Cowart joined me for a conversation about pervertibles, aka making kink tools out of what... more

A new kinkster asks Lina about the “empty headed feeling” that follows her scenes, and Lina explains how subby headspace... more

Have you noticed online is just getting worse and worse? This week, kink celebrity and YouTuber Evie Lupine joins me... more

Sometimes parting is just too much sorrow! This week Lina equips a listener with a strategy for lessening the blow... more

Lina interviews a listener who got in touch to share the story of her custody battle with her sex-negative ex-husband,... more

A sub calls in wondering how to maintain a 24/7 spark when sometimes all you wanna do is curl up... more

Trying to keep your kink gendy-neutch? Means of address can go a long way in creating that euphoric safe space... more

Lina comforts a listener who’s seeking insight into the parallels between bi+ and non-monogamous identities. Lina also takes a second... more

Zachary Zane, author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto stopped by to talk about bisexual sluttiness, rejecting bi assimilationism, and... more

Sometimes it can be hard for us bi girls to name what we want and go after it, and this... more

A bi-for-bi open marriage, crossdressing, and a series of passionate artistic love affairs — no, it’s not 2023, it’s 1923!... more

A Dom calls in wondering how to navigate his sub’s dynamic with another Dom, and Lina talks about primary partner... more

Hear all about the varied kink lives of our ask a sub community! From single folks to people married with... more

This week we’re naming and confronting the pessimism that makes us think all potential sex partners are trash, then discussing... more

Today we’re reclaiming our erotic power and studying a holy trinity of queer feminist writers: Adrienne Rich, Audre Lorde, and... more

A new sub wants to know how to manage jealousy when you're monogamous and your partner isn't. Aka, where is... more

Join me and Luna Matatas for a discussion all about cultivating body confidence in a messed up world!  Get the... more

A sub wants to know how to communicate their changing needs in a longterm relationship, and Lina equips them with... more

A tour through the literary origins of masochism, as well as some modern mythbusting for the masochistically inclined. Get my... more

Today we’re tackling the question of how to share kink resources with vanilla people you encounter in your dating travels,... more

Safe Slut joined me to tell me all about her dating life as an HSV+ queen, shared her thoughts on... more