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Lina Dune

Ask a Sub is an advice podcast for the kink-curious to take themselves from dreaming to doing. Our host Lina Dune is... more

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79. Making it Weird While Keeping it Secure with Casey Tanner aka @queersextherapy

In this preview of Deep Dive, Lina chats with Casey Tanner, @queersextherapy, about their new book Feel It All. Topics... more

13 Jul 2024 · 21 minutes
78. Outgrowing Your Fish Tank

What happens when you’re criss crossing all your red string a la Charlie Day while researching D/s to broaden the... more

05 Jul 2024 · 30 minutes
77. An AMA with Lina

This month for pride, join your very own fave bisexual goblin for a wide ranging AMA! That’s right, I answered... more

28 Jun 2024 · 4 minutes
76. D/s Is A Love Language

This week, a married couple struggles with the ways D/s sometimes outwardly looks like the oppressive gender roles they were... more

21 Jun 2024 · 26 minutes
75. Your Brain Is A Soft-Boiled Egg

Lina gives some tender yet protective advice to a 20-year-old sub looking to start their kink journey. To support the... more

14 Jun 2024 · 22 minutes
74. Eating Olives Off the Floor with Novelist R.O. Kwon

R.O. Kwon stopped by the pod this week to talk about her new book Exhibit, a tale about kink,... more

07 Jun 2024 · 56 minutes
73. Zero Sum Cats with Dollie the Discord Mod

Our Deep Dive guest this month is many things — a kink/rope organizer, an amazing friend, a top-tier emoji-reactor, and... more

31 May 2024 · 25 minutes
72. The Subby Art of Letting Go

A sub calls in wondering how to “do” submission right, and Lina shares some wisdom about how to avoid submissive... more

24 May 2024 · 23 minutes
71. Age Play with Baby Linh

Age Play is considered by some to be one of the most taboo kinks out there, but what if it... more

17 May 2024 · 18 minutes
70. Spit It Out with Alison Stevenson

Today’s episode is brought to you by our friends at Feeld, the dating app for the curious! The theme of... more

10 May 2024 · 32 minutes
69. Cucking Aftercare

That’s me in the corner… that’s me in the… somewhat challenging aftercare predicament? A listener calls in about how to... more

03 May 2024 · 25 minutes
68. Everybody Needs To Chill with Bae Leche

Bae Leche dropped by the pod to talk about being a non-monogamous mom, dating while pregnant, and new corners of... more

26 Apr 2024 · 13 minutes
67. The Submissive Awakening

Kink arrives in your life looking like a problem, but it’s really a solution. In this episode, Lina leads a... more

19 Apr 2024 · 26 minutes
66. Public Humiliation - Where’s The Line?

A listener asks the age-old question of where the line is with public humiliation kinks and involving bystanders, and Lina... more

12 Apr 2024 · 21 minutes
65. Dating Your Intuition

How can you date again after a D/s relationship turns abusive? You start by dating your intuition.   To support... more

05 Apr 2024 · 21 minutes
64. Committed And Kinky

A listener calls in after someone told them saying they are kinky means they are probably not looking for anything... more

29 Mar 2024 · 20 minutes
63. Everyone Is Grieving

I’ve been through some shit lately and wanted to share the ways people have supported me so you can support... more

22 Mar 2024 · 13 minutes
62. Accessible Glory Holes with Andrew Gurza

Disability advocate, sex toy creator, and host of Disability After Dark Andrew Gurza joins us to talk all about non-binary... more

15 Mar 2024 · 31 minutes
61. The Veto Blues

A sub is concerned that her Dom’s wife is going to veto their dynamic and wonders how she can modify... more

01 Mar 2024 · 15 minutes
60. The 24/7 D/s Buffet

So you've got somebody to do 24/7 with - great! Now how the hell do you narrow down all the... more

23 Feb 2024 · 18 minutes
59. Neurospicy & Ready To Party

This week a caller on the autism spectrum and his partner with ADD wonder if there is a link between... more

16 Feb 2024 · 21 minutes
58. Kinky Divorced Moms Deserve A Win

Due to unforeseen circumstances (we got COVID), in lieu of this week’s scheduled episode please enjoy this rerun of a... more

09 Feb 2024 · 21 minutes
57. What Is Humiliation Anyway?

First Lina delivers a hot take about how women who sleep with men can become marginalized within kink, then teases... more

02 Feb 2024 · 24 minutes
56. Dovetailing Purity Culture Into Kink

We’re back! And we’re kicking purity culture in the pants!!  Get info about the Friday 1/26 Deep Dive here! To... more

26 Jan 2024 · 21 minutes
55. You Do Not Have To Be Good

A sub calls in asking how to make amends for past mistakes. Spoiler alert: you do not have to walk... more

22 Dec 2023 · 24 minutes
54. Bloodlust & SW Labor Rights with Empress Wu

The words filth and perversion barely begin to scratch the surface of what's on offer in this interview with Empress... more

15 Dec 2023 · 31 minutes
53. What If I Don't Have Hard Limits?

A sub is concerned about sending the wrong message when telling Doms she doesn't have hard limits. What to do?... more

08 Dec 2023 · 16 minutes
52. Hot Bisexual Takes with Gab Alexa

Bisexual polyamorous writer Gab Alexa joins me to discuss bi-erasure, queer baiting, and her spicy time at the infamous swinger’s... more

01 Dec 2023 · 19 minutes
51. A Thanksgiving Pep Talk

Hey, it's your real life calling! The one where you're not sleeping on an air mattress in a musty basement... more

22 Nov 2023 · 29 minutes
50. What Is A Play Party?

A listener wants to know the answer to a so-called googleable question - what the heck is a play party,... more

17 Nov 2023 · 17 minutes
49. Sub On The Street: Folsom 2023

Get more Folsom info from this pamphlet. Special thanks to Cactus Cult Leather, BunnyLeather.com, Sylvan and Milton, SF K9... more

10 Nov 2023 · 44 minutes
48. Goodest Girl Syndrome

Are you or a loved one affected by Goodest Girl Syndrome, aka the desire to be the absolute best in... more

03 Nov 2023 · 21 minutes
47. A Freak Behind The Lens: Photographer Alex Kacha

This month’s Deep Dive was with boudoir photographer and all around artiste Alex Kacha. We discussed self care, the healing... more

27 Oct 2023 · 25 minutes
46. Comparison Versus Compersion

A sub loves the play parties she attends with her Dom, but is struggling with watching him play with his... more

20 Oct 2023 · 26 minutes
45. Learning From Our Elders & The History of Bootblacking with KD Diamond

Follow KD: Instagram | Website Follow Kink Out: Instagram | Website Get KD’s bootblacking starter kit recs here. To support... more

13 Oct 2023 · 44 minutes
44. Bratty & Broken Hearted

What do you do when a very special dynamic leaves your life? This week a broken-hearted brat wants to know... more

06 Oct 2023 · 18 minutes
43. The Origins Of The Folsom Street Fair

Cue up some disco and put on your finest assless chaps, because we’re reviewing the history of The Folsom Street... more

29 Sep 2023 · 18 minutes
42. Your Pelvic Floor Doesn't Wanna Hustle with Dr. Rachel McCarthy-Moya

If you’re reading this, you have a pelvic floor! And Dr. Rachel McCarthy-Moya is here to tell you all about... more

22 Sep 2023 · 35 minutes
41. A Red Flag Refresher

A refresher on red flags and the radical notion that you don’t have to put up with assholes to get... more

15 Sep 2023 · 20 minutes
40. Keeping Your Polyam Foot On The Floor

Thoughts on respecting all the connections in your polyamorous ecosystem when the sub swoons come calling. Our next Deep Dive... more

08 Sep 2023 · 21 minutes
39. Kink For Hard Times

A listener wants to know how to navigate putting a dynamic on pause when one partner is Going Through It,... more

01 Sep 2023 · 21 minutes
38. A Blank Check For Semen with Vienna Farlow the Cuntsultant

Vienna Farlow The Cuntsultant dropped by for an interview about the Fertility Awareness Method and the weird shift from not... more

25 Aug 2023 · 46 minutes
37. Healthy Conflict But Make It D/s

This week we're talking about how to approach conflict in a way that honors your D/s dynamic. So few of us... more

18 Aug 2023 · 29 minutes
36. Moving The Masochistic Goal Posts with Leigh Cowart

Hurts So Good author Leigh Cowart joined me for a conversation about pervertibles, aka making kink tools out of what... more

11 Aug 2023 · 18 minutes
35. Smooth Brain As Resistance

A new kinkster asks Lina about the “empty headed feeling” that follows her scenes, and Lina explains how subby headspace... more

04 Aug 2023 · 25 minutes
34. Internet Censorship with Evie Lupine

Have you noticed online is just getting worse and worse? This week, kink celebrity and YouTuber Evie Lupine joins me... more

28 Jul 2023 · 25 minutes
33. The Drop-Proof D/s Goodbye

Sometimes parting is just too much sorrow! This week Lina equips a listener with a strategy for lessening the blow... more

21 Jul 2023 · 26 minutes
32. Kinky Divorced Moms Deserve A Win

Lina interviews a listener who got in touch to share the story of her custody battle with her sex-negative ex-husband,... more

14 Jul 2023 · 24 minutes
31. Kinky Cohabitation

A sub calls in wondering how to maintain a 24/7 spark when sometimes all you wanna do is curl up... more

07 Jul 2023 · 24 minutes
30. Gender Neutral Means Of Address

Trying to keep your kink gendy-neutch? Means of address can go a long way in creating that euphoric safe space... more

30 Jun 2023 · 10 minutes
29. Don’t Fear The Fluidity

Lina comforts a listener who’s seeking insight into the parallels between bi+ and non-monogamous identities. Lina also takes a second... more

23 Jun 2023 · 26 minutes
28. Radical Bisexual Permission with Zachary Zane

Zachary Zane, author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto stopped by to talk about bisexual sluttiness, rejecting bi assimilationism, and... more

16 Jun 2023 · 17 minutes
27. Bi Girl Desire

Sometimes it can be hard for us bi girls to name what we want and go after it, and this... more

09 Jun 2023 · 24 minutes
26. Bisexual It Girl Vita Sackville-West

A bi-for-bi open marriage, crossdressing, and a series of passionate artistic love affairs — no, it’s not 2023, it’s 1923!... more

02 Jun 2023 · 11 minutes
25. 2 Doms 1 Sub

A Dom calls in wondering how to navigate his sub’s dynamic with another Dom, and Lina talks about primary partner... more

26 May 2023 · 21 minutes
24. All About Us with the Ask A Sub Community

Hear all about the varied kink lives of our ask a sub community! From single folks to people married with... more

19 May 2023 · 22 minutes
23. Good Doms Are Out There

This week we’re naming and confronting the pessimism that makes us think all potential sex partners are trash, then discussing... more

12 May 2023 · 28 minutes
22. The Sexual Is Political

Today we’re reclaiming our erotic power and studying a holy trinity of queer feminist writers: Adrienne Rich, Audre Lorde, and... more

05 May 2023 · 16 minutes
21. The Polyamory Cool Kids Table

A new sub wants to know how to manage jealousy when you're monogamous and your partner isn't. Aka, where is... more

28 Apr 2023 · 26 minutes
20. Body Love & Healing Your Gaze with Luna Matatas

Join me and Luna Matatas for a discussion all about cultivating body confidence in a messed up world!  Get the... more

21 Apr 2023 · 21 minutes
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Join me and Luna Matatas for a discussion all about cultivating body confidence in a messed up world!  Get the rest of... more