But Why?

In the 100th episode of But Why Clemmie hands the reigns to producer Steve (host of BBC pod You, Me and the Big C) as he delves into the life and times of Creative Director/Instagrammer/Blogger/Podcaster/Author/Fitness Fanatic and mother of three Clemmie Telford. In a raw, honest conversation, we get to know a young Clemmie, find out about her most challenging life moments and her secret talent, and - the big one - we finally discover what her favourite crisp is. Plus why she's so into astronomy, how she met husband Ben and why she's chosen a sober life by the sea. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford, and indulge yourself in more pod content @Butwhy_podcast. And if you're interested, you can find Steve on there too @Mr_Blandy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's episode is all about women without kids, as Clemmie talks to British-born author, editor, podcaster and the founder of Numinous Books Ruby Warrington. Recognised as a true thought leader, Ruby has the unique ability to identify issues that are destined to become part of the cultural narrative.  Her previous books include Material Girl, Mystical World; Sober Curious; and The Sober Curious Reset, and her work has been featured by countless media outlets globally, including the New York Times, The Guardian, and Good Morning America.  Her latest book “Women Without Kids” set Clemmie's brain absolutely whirring and questioning so much: “I am speaking to the ones who’ve never wanted to be mothers, the ones who are teetering on the fence, the ones who’ve tried and failed to become parents, and the ones for whom it just never happened.” It's a challenging, and enlightening chat. You can find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Check out Ruby @rubywarrington. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

**Trigger warning – this episode contains talk of intrusive thoughts of harm. Please take care when listening. In this episode Clemmie chats to chartered clinical psychologist Dr Caroline Boyd about intrusive thoughts. Caroline has over 10 years' experience working in the NHS and mental health settings, and specialises in supporting parents from pregnancy to childbirth and beyond. She is also the author of Mindful New Mum, and her published research explores mothers' experiences of intrusive thoughts about their babies. Her work has been featured in You magazine, Grazia, BBC Radio Scotland and Woman's Hour on BBC Radio 4. Caroline specialises in supporting parents around difficulties related to anger and anxiety. In her independent psychology practice, Parent Therapy Hub, she works integratively and draws on Compassion Focused Therapy, Mindfulness and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, as well as Systemic, Narrative and attachment models. Caroline is fully trained in Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR), an effective approach for working with difficult memories and traumatic events. Caroline shares psychology ideas on Instagram and in the media to help parents feel more connected - to themselves and their children - and less alone.  You can reach Caroline at drcarolineboyd.com or via Instagram @_drboyd In her independent psychology practice, Parent Therapy Hub, Caroline offers workshops and courses supporting mums around maternal anger: https://drcarolineboyd.com/course-mum-rage Caroline’s book, Mindful New Mum: A Mind-Body Approach to the Highs and Lows of Motherhood, is available to buy online Amazon, Waterstones or Bookshop ------------- Note – Fathers also report experiencing these thoughts, but to a slightly lesser degree than mothers. If this episode raises any concerns for you please talk to a trusted health professional such as your GP. You can also reach out to the services below: UK: PANDAS - 0808 1961 776 Samaritans – 116 123 For emergency help - call 999 or visit your local A&E department US: Postpartum Support International - 1-800-944-4773(4PPD)   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie explores selfishness and why it might actually be a good thing, with five-board accredited life coach, broadcaster and public speaker Michelle Elman. Named as one of The Sun’s most inspirational women in the UK, Michelle quickly established herself as the Queen of Boundaries. With a huge following she shares her experiences and expertise with an engaged audience who have followed Michelle’s journey and rise in popularity with pride.  She has written 3 books: “Am I Ugly?”, “The Joy of Being Selfish?’” and, most recently,“The Selfish Romantic: how to date without feeling bad about yourself” . Michelle and Clemmie delve into what it means to be selfish, why boundaries are important and how being selfish can impact, and benefit, your dating life. You can find Michelle on Instagram @michelleelman and while you're there, check out Clemmie @Clemmie_Telford and more pod content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Clemmie talks about comparison this week, with Lucy Sheridan, who is the world’s first and only Comparison Coach™. Through her book ‘The Comparison Cure’, private practice and workshops, Lucy has helped thousands of people go from compare and despair, to #comparisonfree. Accredited by the Association for the Psychological Therapies, named as one of the New Wellbeing Specialists by Style Mag and praised as one of the UK’s most successful coaches by The Times, Lucy's work has been featured in global outlets such as Psychology Today, BBC, Forbes and Google Labs. And she loves wearing white in winter! You can find Lucy on Instagram @LucySheridan on Instagram and check out her work at The Comparison Free Club · Lucy Sheridan. Check out Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford, and find more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie looks at conscious parenting with therapist Dr Shefali Tsabary PhD, who is the author of four books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family. Her latest book - The Parenting Map - is "a comprehensive, fail-safe, whole-family programme designed to help both adults and children heal and thrive." Specialising in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy, Dr Shefali brings together the best of both worlds for her clients. She is an expert in family dynamics and personal development and runs a private practice in New York City. Dr Shefali is also a keynote speaker who has presented at TEDx, Kellogg Business School, the Dalai Lama Center for Peace and Education and other conferences and workshops around the world. She’s been featured on Oprah Winfrey’s SuperSoul Sunday and Oprah’s Lifeclass. Visit her website www.drshefali.com or follow her on Instagram, TikTok and Facebook @doctorshefali. You can also find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and check out more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Clemmie marks International Women's Day 2023 by chatting to Irish-Nigerian academic, broadcaster and bestselling author Emma Dabiri about joy. This week’s episode is part of the Power of Women festival based in Thanet, Kent. Check out powthanet.com for the full POW festival line up which runs throughout March. and happy International Women's Month! Emma is the author of two highly acclaimed books and has fronted numerous documentaries, including Hair Power (2020) for Channel 4 which won the Cannes Lion Silver award for entertainment. She co-presents Britain’s Lost Masterpieces on BBC 4 and has appeared on Newsnight and Have I Got News for You as well as hosting BBC Radio 4’s Saturday Review and Front Row. She is currently working on another book and writing a one-woman play called Throwing Shapes which opens in Dublin in October and at the Soho Theatre in January 2024. You can find Emma on social media @emmadabiri, Clemmie is on Instagram @clemmie_telford, and you can get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode is all about estrangement and Clemmie's guest is Harriet Shearsmith, a mum of three, parenting creator, author of Mummin’ It and the podcaster behind Unfollowing Mum. Harriet shares her story of how she became estranged from her mum, as well as her experience of motherhood, cycle breaking and estrangement online with her community; with a little bit of fun, fashion and life chucked in for good measure! For her sensational tiktoks and outfit videos, you can find Harriet on Instagram @tobyandroo. And if you want to get more podcast content, check out @butwhy_podcast and @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Clemmie explores all things sleep with TV Presenter Cat Cubie and baby sleep expert AND Norland Qualified Nanny Sarah Carpenter. The pair are best known as the hosts of top ten parenting podcast The Sleep Mums and authors of Sleep Better Baby which disrupts the narrative around baby sleep whilst empowering parents with skills and confidence to get a good nights sleep. Clemmie, Cat and Sarah discuss how to get a good night's sleep, how to cope if your kids aren't sleeping and why 'awake routines' are just as important as sleep routines. To find out more about Cat and Sarah's work head to @thesleepmums on Instagram. You can find Clemmie there too @Clemmie_Telford, or check out more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode Clemmie explores the Ebola crisis in Sierra Leone with consultant obstetrician and gynaecologist Benjamin Black. Benjamin is a specialist advisor to international aid organisations - including Médecins Sans Frontières, specifically on sexual, reproductive and maternal healthcare for populations in times of crisis.  Part of which he documents in his (jaw dropping) first book, Belly Woman: Birth, Blood & Ebola; The Untold Story A call to arms to consider ‘What happens to pregnant women when a humanitarian catastrophe hits? This is acutely significant in February 2023, as the world watches the rescue efforts following the earthquakes in Turkey and Syria. You can get Benjamin's new book here. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and check out more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode Clemmie tackles the topic of overwhelm with Steph Douglas, the founder of Don't Buy Her Flowers. As well as running her own business, Steph also writes about motherhood, business, relationships and juggling the rush hour of our life. She also has her own Don't Buy Her Flowers podcast and she's also the mother of three young kids. Clemmie and Steph explore what they mean by overwhelm, how to spot you might be overwhelmed, how to avoid it, and what to do about it. It's a biggie! If you want to follow Steph, head to @steph_dontbuyherflowers on Instagram. For more podcast content, visit @butwhy_podcast and you can find Clemmie @clemmie_telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We are back with another series of But Why, and this series kicks off with a deep and meaningful chat between Clemmie and Steve Bland, co-host of the award-winning BBC podcast You, Me and the Big C, about finding love after loss. After the death of his late wife in 2018, the BBC journalist Rachael Bland, Steve found love again with wife Amy and the couple are expecting twins in April 2023. In this chat, Steve talks about dealing with Rachael's death from breast cancer, coping with the aftermath, getting his life back on track and how he met Amy at a cancer conference. You, Me and the Big C was launched by Rachael, along with Lauren Mahon and Dame Deborah James. Steve took over hosting duties after Rachael's death. You can find Steve on Instagram @Mr_Blandy and while you're there, check out more podcast content @butwhy_podcast and Clemmie @Clemmie_telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the last episode of the current series, Clemmie talks to friend of the pod, mum of three, psychotherapist and bestselling author Anna Mathur about loneliness. Anna is passionate about taking therapy out of the therapy room and sharing her own personal and professional experiences to support mums through motherhood. Her podcast, 'The Therapy Edit', has over a million downloads and her new book, 'The Little Book of Calm for New Mums', is out now! Find Anna on Instagram @annamathur and check out Clemmie @Clemmie_Telford. You can also find more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie is looking at menopause with Davina McCall. Presenter, fitness guru, author and mother, proper household name, Davina McCall is one of the UK's most loved TV personalities. With a career spanning nearly three decades, Davina is firmly established as one of the nation's most successful TV broadcasters and presenter of so many iconic shows including Big Brother. In addition to her TV work, Davina has also built a hugely successful fitness empire, encompassing no less than 15 fitness DVD releases with sales of over 1.4 million and ownyourgoalsdavina.com. She is a key brand ambassador for Garnier, and the first ever ambassador for Ryvita.  And she is an author - ‘Menopausing: The positive roadmap to your second spring’ is out now! But it here. You can find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford, and watch more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie teams up with GambleAware to talk about the new gambling harms prevention campaign to ensure football fans are protected during the current FIFA World Cup and cost-of-living crisis GambleAware's new campaign underlines the message that 'gambling harms can affect anyone' and is backed by the Football Supporters Association (FSA), as well as former players including Peter Shilton, Shaun Wright-Phillips and Lee Hendrie. Clemmie talks to Steph Shilton, whose husband, former England goalkeeper and the most capped England footballer, Peter Shilton OBE, was addicted to gambling for 45 years. And she chats to Jo Mustafa who became addicted to gambling around seven years ago after winning a one-off bet on a football match with her stepdad.  Anyone concerned about their gambling, or that of a loved one, can visit BeGambleAware.org for free, confidential advice and support, or The National Gambling Helpline is available on 0808 8020 133 and operates 24 hours a day, seven days a week. And to find out more about the campaign, click here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie delves into the world of style with East London based Art Director & Stylist Zeena Shah. Zeena trained as a printed textile designer at Chelsea School of Art & Design, she has a passion for colour, print and pattern AND she's also a print designer/maker/illustrator and Creative Workshop Tutor.  As if that's not enough, Zeena is also an author and her most recent book - Marbling: Projects, Design Ideas and Techniques for a More Colourful Life - is all about preserving the art of marbling. Oh, and her incredible wedding also featured in Vogue! Clemmie and Zeena discuss why style is so important, how shopping in your own wardrobe can bring unexpected delights and why men have it tough when it comes to fashion. You can check out Zeena on Instagram @heartzeena and why not follow Clemmie too @Clemmie_telford. You can also find lots more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie chats to Gemma Cairney about friendship. Gemma is a woman with an incredibly impressive career. She's a former Brit School pupil and fashion stylist, she's a broadcaster, a documentary maker, a journalist and producer. Gemma has presented across the breadth of the BBC including BBC 6 Music, BBC Radio 4, and Radio 1, and she's written for, edited, and contributed to the Guardian, Red, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, and Elle. She has won Sony awards for her documentaries, she was the Southbank Artist in Residence and on the WOW panel. And if that's not enough, she's also an author too. He first book Open Your Heart: Your World and Your Future was released in 2018, as was her edition of Hometown Tales, all about life on the south coast. In this episode Clemmie and Gemma talk about what friendship means to them, how they've gained and lost friends by choice, and how losing a close friend can totally alter your outlook on life. You can find Gemma on Instagram @gemagain or on Twitter @gemcairn. Get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast and find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Clemmie tackles stress with Dr Julie Smith, who is a Clinical Psychologist with over a decade of professional experience. Julie has previously worked in the NHS, with veterans and the MoD, in addiction and crisis centres, and now in private practice but alongside all of that she is also an online educator and social media star, with a combined following of more than 3.5 million.  Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? is Julie’s first book - it's a mental health toolbox that is filled with ideas, techniques and insights to help you feel calmer, stronger and more resilient, no matter what life throws your way and since being published in January has spent weeks as a #1 Sunday Times Bestseller. Clemmie and Julie cover all aspects of stress, from what causes us to feel stressed, to why stress, anxiety and excitement are actually very similar. Find Julie on Instagram @DrJulie and buy her new book from all good sellers! Check out Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and find more podcast content at @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Clemmie explores Hyperemesis with presenter, doula, Instagrammer and author of Be Your Own Best Friend: The Glorious Truths of Being Female CHESSIE KING. Chessie is a shining beacon of honesty but also still positivity which I think is such a hard line to balance. She started sharing fitness content online eight years ago but her content now focuses on body confidence and parenthood. Most recently, she launched Babyhood, a platform to support, guide & empower parents through their first 40 days post-partum. Chessie tells Clemmie how Hyperemesis impacted her pregnancy and the first weeks of motherhood, whether it would put her off future pregnancies and how she navigated her way through the low points. Find Chessie on Instagram @ChessieKing and Babyhood @welcometobabyhood. For more podcast content check out @ButWhy_Podcast on Instagram and find Clemmie @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Clemmie talks SHAME with Sunday Times bestselling author and social media sensation Laura Belbin who found fame with her social media accounts and blog 'Knee Deep in Life', which were started after she suffered from chronic depression. Laura uses her social media and comedic talent to challenge issues and stereotypes around shame, body image, mental health, parenting and much more. Her latest book is called "No Shame: How to drop the guilt … from some who’s learned the f**king hard way." Check out Laura on Instagram @knee_deep_in_life and buy her book here. You can find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and check out more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices