Forties Stories

Forties Stories

Building Healthy Boundaries: Helen Snape, 43
Nov 05, 2019 41:30

Building Healthy Boundaries: Helen Snape, 43

Today we are talking about the insidious business of people pleasing. It’s something that so many of us do without even thinking. It’s become a habit that my guest Helen Snape gently reminds us that we can change. She’s been there herself.   Helen became a transformational relationship coach after 19 years in Human Resources and Development. She works with women on breaking free from people-pleasing, codependency, and bad relationships to build a life they love. Helen loves walking in the woods, meditating daily, and dancing to YouTube videos. She lives with her partner in Surrey, England.   Helen and I talk about the roots of people pleasing in her life, how a scarcity mindset limits us, and how to reparent our inner child. She opens up about how a childhood of bullying made her “dial down” her true self and what served as her wake-up call. She also busts the idea that women should be nice.   After the interview, Helen confessed off the air that she’s only recently begun to tell her story. I admire this so much. We as humans are bound by stories. We see our pain, our joy, our idiosyncrasies in others. I asked her if I could share that with you. She agreed. I think you’ll understand after hearing her powerful story, which she so eloquently tells.   Get a copy of Helen’s new book, “Building Healthy Boundaries - An Over-Givers Guide to When to Say Yes and How to Say No in Relationships.” Head over to www.fortiestories.com to find out how do that and connect with Helen.   I’d love to hear what you think about the episode. Is people pleasing something you struggle with or have overcome? Every episode has a comments section on the website, so please check it out and share your thoughts. We’re all in this together. You can also email me and find me on social media. Finally, if you are enjoying the show, I hope you will forward it to a friend and get a conversation started.   Thanks for listening!    
A Reinvention Story: Manuela Powell, 46
Oct 22, 2019 44:22

A Reinvention Story: Manuela Powell, 46

What do you want? Manuela Powell asked herself that very question and then totally disrupted her life. We talk about how her life changed at 39 when her mom came to visit, a recent solo adventure she challenged herself to do, and how awareness is the first step toward shifting a spiraling mindset. She also shares what happened when she finally started making time for conscious decisions.   Manuela is a life coach who helps people change their minds in order to change their lives. For over 17 years, she was a cancer surgeon, in Brazil and in the US, at the Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center. After becoming a mother at 42, she craved more flexibility, freedom, and time with her family. So she put away her scalpel to start operating deeper in the psyche, beyond the physical body. Manuela is obnoxiously happy with her new life, and thrives on guiding others in their own reinvention.   Do you want to see more women in media? I sure do. Be sure to listen to find out how you can support and elevate women in the industry.   A special thanks to Coach Christine of the Your Empty Nest podcast!   Thanks for listening! If you are enjoying the show, share it with a friend and rate or review it. I’d love to hear from you. Find me at www.fortiesstories.com or on social media.  
The Amazing Power of Being Honest: Judi Ketteler, 45
Oct 08, 2019 55:49

The Amazing Power of Being Honest: Judi Ketteler, 45

Are we telling ourselves the truth? Today we dive into the topic of honesty, which is the subject of Judi Ketteler’s forthcoming book, “Would I Lie To You? The Amazing Power of Being Honest in World That Lies.” Judi and I talk about the roots of lying in her own life, how honesty isn’t as simple as you might believe, and why in this fractured time in our history we should all question our decisions around telling the truth. We talk a lot about friendship on this show, and Judi tells us why she feels making and keeping friends in your 40s is hard. This book is about relationships, and Judi makes the case that honesty improves them. The most important relationship is the one that you have with yourself.  Judi Ketteler has written for dozens of publications such as The New York Times, Better Homes & Gardens, Good Housekeeping, and many more. She’s also an award-winning columnist for Cincinnati Magazine, where she writes pieces about the weirdness of midlife. She is the author of two non-fiction books on sewing. When she’s not writing, Judi loves running, yoga, and flea markets. She lives with her husband and two young children in Cincinnati, Ohio. The book will be released on December 31, so if you preorder you will have it in hand on January 1 - which is a perfect way to dive into 2020. That’s right, we’re headed into a new decade, which seems a perfect time to make some changes. If you like to wrestle with big topics, are just curious, or want to feel more powerful than you need to check out this book. Yup, the most important piece to remember is its subtitle “The amazing power of being honest in a world that lies.” Doesn’t that sound nice.  I will let you know how to connect with Judi in the show notes, which you can find at www.fortiestories.com. If you are enjoying the show, I hope you’ll spread the word by sharing it with a friend. Let me know what you think of the episode. On the website there is a comments section for every episode, or you can reach me by email or on social media. Thanks for listening!      
The Importance of Showing Up as We Are: Jackie MacDougall, 48
Sep 24, 2019 45:23

The Importance of Showing Up as We Are: Jackie MacDougall, 48

Jackie MacDougall, fellow midlife podcaster, and I had a really honest conversation. We talk about the mixed messaging women hear, how she feels about aging, and about our shared passion in elevating women’s voices in midlife. We also talk about why it’s important to open your heart and mind to others, and what is the hardest question we need to ask ourselves. Finally, Jackie answers what it means to thrive in your 40s – which might not mean what you think it does. The conversation turns to podcasting and Jackie not only pushes me, which I truly appreciate, but opens up about how her own insecurities bubble up to the surface. She even gets me to admit how I worry about my voice and presence, which is not easy for me to do. Jackie MacDougall worked for over two decades in TV and digital marketing, creating content for women with some of the most recognizable and innovative names in entertainment like Queen Latifah, Harry Connick Jr., Tyra Banks, Chrissy Teigen, and Sharon Osbourne. Jackie combines her personal and professional experience in finding her purpose, helping women over 40 find their voice and build their tribe through podcast coaching, live events, and online programs. She is the founder of Forty Thrive and host of the Forty Thrive podcast and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three kids.  I will let you know how to connect with Jackie in the show notes, which you can find at www.fortiesstories.com. I hope you’ll check out her podcast Forty Thrive. I’ve enjoyed it and think you will too. If you would like to share your story or know someone else who might be interested, please let me know. On the website, you will find my email address and links to social media. I’d love to hear from you. Thanks for tuning in!
An Announcement
Sep 17, 2019 04:30

An Announcement

I’ve been on the air for six months now and it’s been an incredible journey. However, find out why I’m moving the show to a biweekly one. I have a great episode for you next week with Jackie MacDougall of Forty Thrive, whose announcement on her show got me thinking of mine.    I am looking for 6 women to provide some information on their listening habits, preferences, and feedback related to Forties Stories. If you have listened to 7 or more episodes AND are between the ages of 35 - 55, you are eligible to participate. I will take 1 listener outside of the US. For more information, go to https://www.fortiesstories.com/feedback or email me at [email protected] This is ONLY for my personal use and will never be shared. Even if you can’t participate, please drop me a note anytime to share your thoughts, questions, and feedback. Thank you, as always, for listening, and your support. It means the world to me. I’ll see you next Tuesday!    
A Holistic Journey: Lizbeth Ericka, 40
Sep 10, 2019 36:59

A Holistic Journey: Lizbeth Ericka, 40

Life is a journey. What a cliché, right? But as Jack Kerouac said, “all clichés are truisms, and truisms are true.” If we think of our lives in those terms though, we start to appreciate that where we are today, doesn’t mean that we’ll be in the same place tomorrow. I love what my guest Lizbeth Ericka has to say about journeys. Lizbeth and I talk about her path to entrepreneurship, what she’s learned from her teens, and her spirt animals. She also reveals why she agreed to say yes to this interview. One of my favorite parts of these interviews is at the end where I ask my guests if there is anything else they’d like to mention before we close. It’s always fascinating, and usually profound. Lizbeth pleasantly surprised me with a new approach to this question, so you’ll definitely want to listen till the end.   Lizbeth Ericka worked in Research and Evaluation for many years directing health promotion projects for federal and local agencies. She is a trained mental health counselor and has worked with adolescents and adults in different community settings. In 2015, she made the courageous move to leave her corporate job to forge a path to educate, empower, and shift the way that individuals view health and wellness. She is certified in various fitness modalities, and is an avid cyclist and runner. In August 2019, Lizbeth launched a yoga space in East Harlem, NY where she teaches yoga, conducts workshops, and does one-one-coaching at CB Health and Wellness Center. I hope that this episode makes you think about your own journey. I will let you know how to connect with Lizbeth in the show notes, which you can find at www.fortiesstories.com. I’d love to hear from you. On the website, you will find my email address and links to social media. I know many of you have shared the show with a friend, and for that I’m really grateful. If you are new to the show, or have tuned in before, thanks for listening!           
Bonus: Sisters in Conversation with Sandi Reinardy and Barb Dvoracek
Sep 05, 2019 38:00

Bonus: Sisters in Conversation with Sandi Reinardy and Barb Dvoracek

Today is the final part in our special 3-part sisters’ series. The series includes episode 20 with Sandi Reinardy and episode 21 with her older sister Barb Dvoracek. Sandi and Barb talk about their relationship, how they consider spending time with their sisters as self-care, and what they’re both working on in terms of self-development. They also talk about Sandi’s decision not to have children – the first time they really opened up about it. It’s a fun, heart-warming conversation, that is a tribute to sisters.   Sandi Reinardy, 41, is in the midst of making a career change from database consultant to social worker, with a focus on criminal justice efforts. She is also a writer and recently launched a blog called Grumble Wonder Grow, where she wrestles with the beautiful, messy challenges of being a human. She lives in Madison, Wisconsin with her husband. Barb Dvoracek, 47, worked for 17 years at a global consumer products company in management and clinical research. She has bachelor’s degrees in psychology and human biology, and a master of science in microbiology. Barb also recently completed another master’s in social work in order to make a career change. She lives in Wisconsin and has been married to her husband Bill for 17 years. Barb has taken a year off work to spend more time with her four children, ranging in age from 10 - 24, and to help care for her parents. I know that many of you don’t have sister or have a sister, but you aren’t close. Whether that’s you or if you, too, have a tight bond with your sister – I hope it leaves you inspired to have those important conversations that you need or want. The sound quality is not the best in this episode, and I worked quite a bit to get it to where it is now. I hope that you can overlook it, because you won’t want to miss it. As you heard in both of those episodes, Sandi reached out to me at the beginning of summer and proposed this series, which has been really wonderful. I am grateful to both Sandi and Barb for their voices and support! Let me know what you think about this series. I’d love to hear your thoughts, your questions, your ideas. Please head over to www.fortiesstories.com. From there, you can email me or find me on social media. If you are enjoying the show, I would be grateful if you would take a minute to leave a rating or review to help other women find it. Thank you for listening!        
In the Sandwich Generation: Barb Dvoracek, 47
Sep 03, 2019 41:10

In the Sandwich Generation: Barb Dvoracek, 47

Today’s episode is part 2 of 3 of a special sisters’ series. Part 3 is a bonus episode that will air this Thursday, September 5th. My guest Barb Dvoracek and I talk about how she is balancing priorities as part of the sandwich generation, why we should get better at forgiving ourselves, and how she maintains her connection to family and to friends – old and new. We also talk about the happiness curve and how mid- to late-40s is a time when many women, and men, feel a level of discontent that is not necessarily dependent on circumstances. Finally, Barb busts the tired stereotypes around gray hair. Barb Dvoracek worked for 17 years at a global consumer products company in management and clinical research. She has bachelor’s degrees in psychology and human biology, and a master of science in microbiology. Barb also recently completed another master’s in social work in order to make a career change. She lives in Wisconsin and has been married to her husband Bill for 17 years. Barb has taken a year off work to spend more time with her four children, ranging in age from 10 - 24, and to help care for her parents. If you are tuning in for the first time, you’ll want to check out last week's episode with Sandi, which is part one. On Thursday Barb and Sandi are in conversation together. One that was very moving for all of us. You won’t want to miss it. I’d like to thank Sandi for proposing this series and Barb for being so enthusiastic! I’m grateful to them for their support and for sharing their voice with us. If you would like to join in the conversation, please let me know. I’d also love to hear your thoughts, your questions, your ideas. Please head over to www.fortiesstories.com. From there, you can email me or find me on social media. I’d like to thank everyone who has left a rating or review for the show! It is a labor of love for me and so I very much appreciate the gesture as it helps more women find the show. I know that so many of you have also shared the show with friends – and I am grateful.      
Childless By Choice: Sandi Reinardy, 41
Aug 27, 2019 41:00

Childless By Choice: Sandi Reinardy, 41

Today’s episode is part 1 of a special sisters series. It will continue through next week and will include a bonus episode on Thursday, September 5th. My guest Sandi Reinardy and I talk about her decision to not have children, about how she is using her voice, and how giving oneself a bit of space opens up the possibility of having genuine connection with others. Sandi shares why she prefers to use the term childless over childfree, and about her decision to return to school. Sandi Reinardy is in the midst of making a career change from database consultant to social worker, with a focus on criminal justice efforts. She is also a writer and recently launched a blog called Grumble Wonder Grow, where she wrestles with the beautiful, messy challenges of being a human. She lives in Madison, Wisconsin with her husband. Next Tuesday I’ll air my talk with Sandi’s older sister, Barb Dvoracek, and then on Thursday they're in conversation together. One that was very moving for all of us. You won’t want to miss it. I’d like to thank Sandi for proposing this series and her sister Barb for being so enthusiastic. I’m grateful to them for their support and for sharing their stories with us. I will let you know how to connect with Sandi in the show notes, which you can find at www.fortiesstories.com. If you are enjoying the show, I’d be grateful if you would take a minute to share it with a friend and leave a review. Use this episode as a conversation starter. I’d love to hear your thoughts, your questions, your ideas. You can email me or find me on social media. I’m on Twitter and Instagram. Thanks for listening!      
When the Nest is Empty: Alice Agnello, 46
Aug 20, 2019 42:16

When the Nest is Empty: Alice Agnello, 46

Transitions are often a good time to pause and see if you are on a course that is fulfilling and important to you. And, as my guest Alice Agnello says, the possibility exists to thrive with change, to embrace and enjoy it. Alice and I became friends when we started junior high school together. We talk about the importance of being independent from your kids, how the older women in her family are her role models, and why our friendships can take more effort in our 40s. Alice shares how dealt with her kids leaving home and the reason behind her career pivot. You’ll also hear about some changes I’ve recently made in my life, after thinking about my own looming empty nest. Alice Agnello is a lifestyle and success coach who helps women figure out who they are now that their kids are grown and may not need them as much. She was raised in California and now lives in Virginia, so she's been known to say “dude” and “y'all” in the same sentence. Alice is an educator, speaker, podcaster, and ravenous reader. She also loves show tunes, chai tea, and all things British. Alice’s mission is to help women see the true value in themselves and to not allow fear to dictate their lives. You can find the show notes and how to connect with Alice at www.fortiesstories.com. If you are enjoying the show, I’d be eternally grateful if you would take a minute to share it with a friend and leave a review. I’d love to hear about how you are dealing with the empty nest, if you are going back to school, or anything else that is important to you right now. You can email me or find me on social media. I’m on Twitter and Instagram. Thanks for listening!