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Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer
Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer
Headgum & Nicole Byer

Dating can be a hot mess, from getting ghosted by your crush to realizing you've been catfished by a Tinder match. Enter... more

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Episodes

Validate Bisexuality (w/ Sherry Cola)

Comedian Sherry Cola (Joy Ride, Turning Red) shares her journey of coming out as bisexual, how she met her girlfriend,... more

15 Nov 2024 · 54 minutes
We Met Playing Call of Duty (w/ Sarah Silverman)

Comedian Sarah Silverman sits down with Nicole to discuss meeting her boyfriend over Call of Duty, the challenges of dating... more

08 Nov 2024 · 58 minutes
Men Who Lie About Their Height (w/ Lauren Lapkus)

We're back - and now in video form! Comedian and actress Lauren Lapkus (Newcomers podcast) joins Nicole to discuss why... more

01 Nov 2024 · 56 minutes
BEST OF: How to Hack Into Your Partner's Phone (w/ Keke Palmer)

In this best of episode, Emmy-award winning actress Keke Palmer (Nope, Lightyear) shares with Nicole how she got her first kiss from MySpace,... more

25 Oct 2024 · 45 minutes
BEST OF: Being a Single Mom of 3 (w/ Francesca Amber)

While we're on hiatus, we're bringing you the best of the podcast – completely ad-free! In this episode, Nicole’s close... more

18 Oct 2024 · 58 minutes
BEST OF: Top or Bottom? (w/ Jon Gabrus, Nick Wiger, and Mike Mitchell)

In this iconic episode, Gabrus (High & Mighty), Nick Wiger and Mike Mitchell (Doughboys) join Nicole fresh off a power-hour... more

11 Oct 2024 · 1 hour, 25 minutes
BEST OF: Proposal Gone Wrong (w/ Paul Scheer)

While we're on hiatus, we're revisiting one of Nicole's favorite episodes! Comedian and actor Paul Scheer (The League, Black Monday) joins Nicole to... more

04 Oct 2024 · 1 hour, 4 minutes
BEST OF: Same Guy Club (w/ Skyler Hurt)

We’re bringing you the best of Why Won’t You Date Me?—completely ad-free! In this episode, Nicole is joined by Skyler,... more

27 Sep 2024 · 1 hour, 5 minutes
BEST OF: Getting Paid for Sex (w/ Meatball and Big Dipper)

As we continue our hiatus, we're bringing back some of Nicole's all-time favorite episodes! And oh boy, BUCKLE UP, because... more

20 Sep 2024 · 1 hour, 3 minutes
BEST OF: Booty Call Horror Story (w/ Jameela Jamil)

Actress Jameela Jamil (The Good Place) joins Nicole to share her most horrifying booty call story. They dive into the... more

13 Sep 2024 · 1 hour,
A lil update from Nicole

We’re taking a short hiatus, but don’t worry—we’ll be back soon with brand new episodes, including more video podcasts! In... more

12 Sep 2024 ·
Dating Michael Jordan, Larry David, and a $6K Dating App Fail (w/ Garcelle Beauvais)

Actress Garcelle Beauvais (The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills) joins Nicole to discuss dating the likes of Michael Jordan, Larry David,... more

06 Sep 2024 · 55 minutes
Dating Scraps (w/ Riki Lindhome)

Comedian Riki Lindhome (Garfunkel and Oates, AfrAId) joins Nicole to discuss her harrowing fertility journey, dating someone new just two... more

30 Aug 2024 · 54 minutes
Orgasmic Meditation (w/ Chloe Fineman)

Comedian and actress Chloe Fineman (SNL) joins Nicole to discuss orgasmic meditation and the strange men behind the practice. She... more

23 Aug 2024 · 54 minutes
When Your Dad’s a Movie Icon (w/ Sophia Stallone)

Sophia Stallone (The Family Stallone) shares what it's like to date when your dad is Sylvester Stallone. Sophia recounts cringey dates... more

16 Aug 2024 · 1 hour, 1 minute
Sex Goals (w/ Akeem Woods)

Comedian and "ho-fessional" Akeem Woods joins Nicole to share his crazy sexcapades. He tells the story about his first Pride... more

09 Aug 2024 · 55 minutes
Don't Break Up Like This! (w/ Ryan Beck)

Comedian Ryan Beck (Girl Code) joins Nicole to discuss the worst places to be broken up with and debate when... more

02 Aug 2024 · 57 minutes
Modelling on OnlyFans (w/ Luenell)

Comedian Luenell (Borat, Hacks) joins Nicole to discuss the decision that led her to start an OnlyFans, dating a man... more

26 Jul 2024 · 59 minutes
Forget About the Dating "Icks" (w/ Boman Martinez-Reid)

Actor/TikToker Boman Martinez-Reid (@Bomanizer) joins Nicole to discuss the pitfalls of launching your relationship on social media, witnessing his ex... more

19 Jul 2024 · 58 minutes
Background Check Your Dates (w/ Lala Kent)

Lala Kent (Vanderpump Rules) joins Nicole to reveal why she chose a sperm donor for her pregnancy and explain the... more

12 Jul 2024 · 1 hour, 2 minutes
Dating a Cult Leader (w/ Poppy Liu)

Actress Poppy Liu (Hacks) joins Nicole to discuss how she accidentally dated a cult leader, her exhausting year as a dominatrix... more

05 Jul 2024 · 47 minutes
Dominant Women (w/ Clark Jones)

Comedian Clark Jones joins Nicole to discuss a wild hookup after a drug-fueled comedy show, the experience that turned him... more

28 Jun 2024 · 1 hour,
Your Relationship Needs a Song (w/ Keith Robinson)

Comedian Keith Robinson has faced two strokes that have affected half his mobility and speech. He shares with Nicole how... more

21 Jun 2024 · 42 minutes
Anxiety (w/ Tony Hale)

Actor Tony Hale (Veep, Arrested Development, Inside Out 2) joins Nicole to discuss how he accidentally themed his marriage proposal... more

14 Jun 2024 · 55 minutes
You Smell Like Me (w/ David Gborie)

Comedian David Gborie (voice of Comedy Central, All Fantasy Everything, My Momma Told Me) joins Nicole to discuss the hottest... more

07 Jun 2024 · 1 hour, 3 minutes
The 90 Day Fiancé Interview (w/ Alex Roshon)

Relationship therapist and star of 90 Day Fiancé: Love in Paradise, Alex Roshon, is here to answer all of Nicole's... more

31 May 2024 · 44 minutes
Interview with a MILF from MILF Manor (w/ Crystal)

This season of MILF Manor takes a wild turn as MILFs date young men and their fathers at the same... more

24 May 2024 · 51 minutes
The Hookup Queen (w/ Mistress Isabelle Brooks)

Drag queen Mistress Isabelle Brooks (Finalist of RuPaul's Drag Race S15) joins Nicole to discuss her dating life as 'The... more

17 May 2024 · 58 minutes
Love in Theater (w/ Jesse Tyler Ferguson)

Actor Jesse Tyler Ferguson (Modern Family) joins Nicole to share his proposal story and how it was hilariously overshadowed by... more

10 May 2024 · 55 minutes
Forever Single Friends (w/ Jessica Gao)

Writer Jessica Gao (She Hulk: Attorney at Law, Rick & Morty) joins Nicole to discuss male friends who are "single... more

03 May 2024 · 55 minutes
Catfished! (w/ Kamie Crawford)

Kamie Crawford (Host of Catfish: The TV Show)  joins Nicole to explore the most bizarre catfishing schemes she's witnessed, and... more

26 Apr 2024 · 54 minutes
Winning a TV Dating Show (w/ Craig Conant)

Comedian Craig Conant joins Nicole to discuss how sleeping with a chucklefucker led to him to become a baby daddy,... more

19 Apr 2024 · 51 minutes
Dating as an Olympian (w/ A'ja Wilson)

WNBA superstar and Olympic gold medalist A'ja Wilson joins Nicole to discuss how her 6'4" height shapes her dating experiences,... more

12 Apr 2024 · 53 minutes
A Partner to Invest In (w/ William Stanford Davis)

Actor William Stanford Davis (Abbott Elementary) joins Nicole to share how he met his wife in an improv class, the unique... more

05 Apr 2024 · 52 minutes
Addicted to Love (w/ Moshe Kasher)

Comedian and writer Moshe Kasher chats with Nicole about being a ho, going to a 12-step program for sex addicts,... more

29 Mar 2024 · 48 minutes
Meeting Singles in the Wild (w/ Franchesca Ramsey)

Comedian Franchesca Ramsey (iCarly) joins Nicole to discuss what she's learned after going through an expensive divorce, finding singles in the... more

22 Mar 2024 · 54 minutes
Love is In the Air (w/ Zach Woods)

Comedian Zach Woods (Silicon Valley, The Office, In The Know) joins Nicole to discuss shooting your shot with your crush, having... more

15 Mar 2024 · 55 minutes
Roommate Sex Drama (w/ Asha Ward)

Comedian and writer Asha Ward (SNL) joins Nicole to share her wild roommate sex drama, reflects on being raised by a... more

08 Mar 2024 · 50 minutes
The Art of Kissing (w/ LU KALA)

Musician LU KALA joins Nicole to discuss why the dating world feels so broken after COVID, the skill behind a... more

01 Mar 2024 · 58 minutes
Proposals (w/ Rory Scovel)

Comedian Rory Scovel joins Nicole for a chat about their Valentine's Day experiences, dealing with horny audience members, his cute proposal... more

23 Feb 2024 · 46 minutes
Dating with Anxiety (w/ Lamar Woods)

Comedian Lamar Woods (New Girl, Grand Crew) joins Nicole to discuss their 2024 vision boards, taking yourself on self care... more

16 Feb 2024 · 1 hour, 4 minutes
Valentine's Day (w/ Laurie Kilmartin)

Comedian Laurie Kilmartin (Conan) joins Nicole to discuss all things Valentine's Day - the gifts, their dream dates, and Nicole's... more

09 Feb 2024 · 59 minutes
Singles Mixers (w/ Rashida "SHEEDZ" Olayiwola)

Comedian Rashida "SHEEDZ" Olayiwola (Jury Duty) joins Nicole to discuss the best places to go for singles mixers, the time... more

02 Feb 2024 · 56 minutes
Faking Orgasms (w/ Stavros Halkias)

Comedian Stavros Halkias (Fat Rascal, Stavvy's World) joins Nicole to discuss hooking up with audience members, why he believes he... more

26 Jan 2024 · 59 minutes
Heartbreak at Homecoming (w/ Garrick Bernard)

Comedian and writer Garrick Bernard (Rick & Morty, Solar Opposites) joins Nicole to discuss finding love at BuzzFeed, the awkwardness... more

19 Jan 2024 · 1 hour, 1 minute
Orgy Invitation (w/ Mark Rennie)

Comedian and friend Mark Rennie (The Onion) joins Nicole to share his experience attending a gay meetup on a Star... more

12 Jan 2024 · 1 hour, 3 minutes
Married to a Man-Ho (w/ Lisa Ann Walter)

Comedian Lisa Ann Walter (Abbott Elementary) joins Nicole to share her unique marital experiences, from a husband who eventually came... more

05 Jan 2024 · 41 minutes
Baby Daddy Drama (w/ Liz Barlow)

Comedian Liz Barlow discusses breaking up with a boyfriend who doxxed people, her challenging experience dating women, the story of... more

29 Dec 2023 · 1 hour, 1 minute
His & Hers: Home Decor Compromises (w/ Katrina Davis)

Comedian Katrina Davis joins Nicole to discuss holiday gift giving, the delicate process of home decorating when moving in with... more

22 Dec 2023 · 1 hour,
Being a WOMAN (w/ Sasha Colby)

Drag queen mother Sasha Colby (winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S15) sits down with Nicole to discuss the unique challenges... more

15 Dec 2023 · 53 minutes
Surprise Date Ideas (w/ Lisa Gilroy)

Comedian Lisa Gilroy doesn't want you to think about her little tiddies, okay? So she shares her adventures in surprise... more

08 Dec 2023 · 1 hour, 2 minutes
Cancelled (w/ Kathy Griffin)

Comedy icon Kathy Griffin sits down with Nicole to tackle the burning question: Is she still cancelled? She discusses her... more

01 Dec 2023 · 56 minutes
The Celibacy Choice (w/ Kel Mitchell)

Comedian Kel Mitchell (Kenan & Kel, Good Burger) joins Nicole to explore his evolution from teen heartthrob to youth pastor.... more

24 Nov 2023 · 1 hour, 8 minutes
How to Spot a Hobosexual (w/ Alesha Reneé)

Actress & TV personality Alesha Reneé (Grand Crew, Girl Code) joins Nicole to delve into the world of 'hobosexuals,' revealing... more

17 Nov 2023 · 1 hour, 3 minutes
Reading Nicole's Fortune (w/ Witch Sutton Crawford)

Ever wonder what it's like to have your tarot cards read? Witch and intuitionist Sutton Crawford gives Nicole an on-air... more

10 Nov 2023 · 1 hour, 1 minute
Saying I Love You (w/ Ashley Blaine Featherson-Jenkins)

Actress Ashley Blaine Featherson-Jenkins (Dear White People, Grand Crew) joins Nicole to chat about her perfect engagement story, getting over... more

03 Nov 2023 · 59 minutes
Kink Gone Wrong (w/ Jonathan Van Ness)

Hairstylist and icon Jonathan Van Ness (Queer Eye) shares with Nicole an unforgettable and horrifying story about his first foray... more

27 Oct 2023 · 1 hour, 2 minutes
Relationship Manipulation Tactics (w/ E.R. Fightmaster)

Comedian E.R. Fightmaster (Shrill, Grey's Anatomy) joins Nicole to discuss the benefits of keeping romantic partnerships out of the public... more

20 Oct 2023 · 57 minutes
Hurt People Hurt People (w/ Kenny DeForest)

Comedian Kenny DeForest joins Nicole to explore how an amicable split after 8.5 years can transform someone from a 'fuckboy'... more

13 Oct 2023 · 57 minutes
Advice From an Intimacy Expert (w/ Shan Boodram)

Sexologist and intimacy expert Shan Boodram (Sexology, Lovers & Friends) joins Nicole to teach her how to radiate better vibes... more

06 Oct 2023 · 57 minutes
Breaking Up (w/ Eric Andre)

Is it worse to break up with someone, or get broken up with? Comedian Eric Andre (Bombing with Eric Andre)... more

29 Sep 2023 · 45 minutes
Positive Affirmations to Change Your Psyche (w/ Leslie Jones)

Comedian Leslie Jones (SNL) chats with Nicole about the challenges of adjusting to a new relationship, strategies to eliminate negative... more

22 Sep 2023 · 59 minutes
Achieving 'Couple Goals' (w/ Michael Jai White)

Ever wondered what lies behind those picture-perfect 'couple goals'? Action star Michael Jai White (Black Dynamite, Outlaw Johnny Black) joins... more

15 Sep 2023 · 54 minutes
Sex and Love Addict (w/ Maria Bamford)

Ever wondered what it's like getting intimate with a clown? Deep dive as comedian Maria Bamford (Arrested Development, Big Mouth)... more

08 Sep 2023 · 59 minutes
Feeling Safe in a Relationship (w/ Uzo Aduba)

The Emmy-winning Uzo Aduba (Orange Is The New Black) chats with Nicole about how her dating app DMs changed after... more

01 Sep 2023 · 57 minutes
Nicole Eats a Banana from a Sex Worker's Pussy (w/ Naomi Rodgers)

Broadway star Naomi Rodgers (Tina: The Tina Turner Musical) opens up about secretly dating her co-star while on tour, and... more

25 Aug 2023 · 56 minutes
300 Episodes of Why Won't You Date Me (w/ Sasheer Zamata)

It's episode 300! But how is Nicole STILL SINGLE?  On this milestone occasion, she's joined by her best friend Sasheer... more

18 Aug 2023 · 1 hour, 8 minutes
Romancing Overseas (w/ Zurin Villanueva)

Broadway superstar Zurin Villanueva (Tina: The Tina Turner Musical)  joins Nicole for a discussion about the awkwardness of working together... more

11 Aug 2023 · 1 hour, 3 minutes
Gay Orgies (w/ Jay Jurden)

The hilarious comedian Jay Jurden joins Nicole to talk about his secret relationship with a frat boy, working at Abercrombie... more

04 Aug 2023 · 1 hour, 9 minutes
Dating an Asexual (w/ Gigi Goode)

Drag queen Gigi Goode (Drag Race S12) joins Nicole for a supersized live episode of the podcast! They talk about... more

28 Jul 2023 · 1 hour, 47 minutes
Mutual Ghosting (w/ Robin Fierce)

Drag queen Robin Fierce (Drag Race S15) LIP-SYNCS TO THIS VERY PODCAST! She talks about remixing Nicole's comedy in her... more

21 Jul 2023 · 1 hour, 4 minutes
Catfishing Men on Craigslist (w/ Bosco)

Drag queen Bosco (Drag Race S14) joins Nicole to discuss their long-term relationship with a fan, recounts her most enchanting... more

14 Jul 2023 · 54 minutes
Nicole Wins an Orgasm Contest (w/ Matteo Lane)

Comedian and friend Matteo Lane returns to the podcast! They reminisce about his love life since his last episode, getting... more

07 Jul 2023 · 41 minutes
Tasteful Dick Pics (w/ Jermaine Fowler)

Comedian & actor Jermaine Fowler (The Blackening) joins Nicole to reminisce on their time working on Guy/Girl Code, his joy... more

30 Jun 2023 · 39 minutes
Finding Your Confidence (w/ Jay Pharoah)

Comedian Jay Pharoah (Saturday Night Live) dives into how a messy breakup ended up saving his SNL career, and the... more

23 Jun 2023 · 1 hour, 2 minutes
Fake It Til You Make It (w/ Melvin Gregg)

Comedian and actor Melvin Gregg (Vine, American Vandal, The Blackening) opens up about his unique romantic path, where pretending to... more

16 Jun 2023 · 52 minutes
Transcending Norms (w/ TS Madison)

Actress and activist TS Madison (judge on RuPaul's Drag Race) is here for a heartfelt chat on her journey from... more

09 Jun 2023 · 1 hour, 3 minutes
Live Your Rom-Com Era (w/ Sam Taggart)

Comedian Sam Taggart (host of StraightioLab) is here to spill some juicy insights on gay relationships and why they often... more

02 Jun 2023 · 55 minutes
Sugar Daddies (w/ Sugar & Spice)

Twin drag queen icons Sugar & Spice (RuPaul's Drag Race S15) join Nicole for a conversation about why you can't... more

26 May 2023 · 1 hour, 7 minutes
Hot Porn Seaches (w/ Bridget Everett)

The hilarious Bridget Everett (Somebody, Somewhere) joins Nicole to discuss the hot porn searches they've been into, the need for... more

19 May 2023 · 1 hour,
Monogamously Challenged (w/ Holly Robinson Peete)

Actress Holly Robinson Peete (21 Jump Street, Queen's Court) opens up about her experience being in a relationship with someone... more

12 May 2023 · 1 hour,
Secrets To a Long, Loving Marriage (w/ John Leguizamo)

Actor John Leguizamo (Encanto, Moulin Rouge!, Ice Age) chats with Nicole about his secrets to a long, loving marriage, how... more

05 May 2023 · 48 minutes
Lesbian Sex (w/ Ashley Gavin)

Comedian Ashley Gavin (host of We're Having Gay Sex) teaches Nicole all about lesbian sex and relationships. They cover scissoring... more

28 Apr 2023 · 59 minutes
"Don't Ask, Don't Tell" Poly Relationships (w/ Zoe Lister-Jones)

Actress/writer/director Zoe Lister-Jones (Slip) shares her experience opening and closing her "don't ask don't tell" poly relationship, what she's learned... more

21 Apr 2023 · 1 hour, 4 minutes
Staying Friends with your Ex (w/ James Marsden)

Actor James Marsden (Sonic The Hedgehog, Hairspray, Jury Duty) joins Nicole to talk about his new singledom, remaining friends with... more

14 Apr 2023 · 1 hour, 14 minutes
A Love Queen (w/ Sasha Velour)

Drag queen icon Sasha Velour (winner of Drag Race S9) chats with Nicole about coming out to their dad at... more

07 Apr 2023 · 59 minutes
Why Won't You Go Get a Transvaginal Ultrasound? (w/ X Mayo)

Comedian and writer X Mayo (The Daily Show, American Auto, Swarm) chats with Nicole about her success making friend connections... more

31 Mar 2023 · 1 hour, 6 minutes
Marrying for Tax Purposes (w/ Jeff Hiller)

Comedian and actor Jeff Hiller (Somebody Somewhere) reunites with Nicole to share how he met his husband on Chemistry.com, his... more

24 Mar 2023 · 59 minutes
Being 'In Like' vs Being 'In Love' (w/ Gabrielle Dennis)

Comedian and actress Gabrielle Dennis (A Black Lady Sketch Show, Luke Cage) chats with Nicole her philosophy as to why... more

17 Mar 2023 · 56 minutes
Mormon and Closeted (w/ Bridger Winegar)

Writer Bridger Winegar (host of I Said No Gifts!)  joins Nicole to discuss his experience being closeted to himself until... more

10 Mar 2023 · 53 minutes
Marrying Your High School Sweetheart (w/ Adam Pally)

Comedian Adam Pally (101 Places to Party Before You Die, Who Invited Charlie?) chats with Nicole about why an easy... more

03 Mar 2023 · 54 minutes
Being The Only One Left (w/ Michael Cruz Kayne)

Comedian Michael Cruz Kayne's dating strategy involves being the only guy left available. He joins Nicole to explain the approach... more

24 Feb 2023 · 57 minutes
Dating a Groupie (w/ Steph Tolev)

Comedian Steph Tolev joins Nicole to discuss what it's like to date a groupie, getting matching tattoos with her partners,... more

17 Feb 2023 · 55 minutes
Having Sex On-Camera (w/ Jordan Firstman)

Comedian Jordan Firstman (Big Mouth, Ms. Marvel) joins Nicole to talk about his experience being involved in a threesome where... more

10 Feb 2023 · 58 minutes
Celibate for 18 Years (w/ Debra DiGiovanni)

Comedian Debra DiGiovanni joins Nicole to discuss her experience being single and celibate for 18 years, importing her current boyfriend,... more

03 Feb 2023 · 57 minutes
Nicole's Boyfriend Speaks His Truth (w/ Dan Black)

In January, Nicole shocked the world with an Instagram post announcing her relationship with comedian Dan Black. On this episode,... more

27 Jan 2023 · 1 hour, 6 minutes
The Sex Lives of Artists (w/ Ilia Isorelýs Paulino)

Actress Ilia Isorelýs Paulino (The Sex Lives of College Girls)  joins Nicole to chat about her sex life at Yale,... more

20 Jan 2023 · 1 hour, 7 minutes
Pandemic Divorce (w/ Punkie Johnson)

Comedian Punkie Johnson (SNL) joins Nicole to discuss how the pandemic lead to her divorce,  learning to love her partner's... more

13 Jan 2023 · 57 minutes
Stories from Nicole's Road Dog (w/ Christi Chiello)

Comedian and Nicole's opener Christi Chiello joins the podcast to discuss having 5 of her ex-boyfriends come out as gay,... more

06 Jan 2023 · 1 hour, 3 minutes
Living Your Hoe Phase (w/ Atsuko Okatsuka)

Comedian Atsuko Okatsuka returns! She chats with Nicole about dating her community college teacher for 7 years, exploring the world... more

30 Dec 2022 · 58 minutes
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In January, Nicole shocked the world with an Instagram post announcing her relationship with comedian Dan Black. On this episode,  Dan joins... more