Ladies Doing Stuff Podcast

They say us Ladies are complex, emotional, and hard to figure out...but are we thoooooough? On more than one occasion, Cheram and Aamber have put in overtime trying to figure out what men ACTUALLY mean when they say things. When he says, "I ain't trippin" after you talk to his friend a little too long. Or when you're not dating exclusively and he says, "I'm cool it." Is he? What does he really mean? We brought in some men that are experts at being men to find out 😂 Welcome Oguike @uncleguike and Kennedy @Kingkennedyhart to the studio to drop some XY chromosome knowledge for the Ladies!

Are our bad habits really that bad? Is it too late for us to change? Cheram lives life as an i-n-d-e-p-e-n-d-e-n-t woman, and trusts no one. Aamber sees you trying, acknowledges your efforts, and reserves the right let you know it's not good enough. Is it really that big a deal? Alright, maybe life as unprotected Black women in a big city has left us with a few scars and a bit of a complex. This episode we both take a hard look in a mirror and break down our "unhelpful" habits, while we dish about the challenges that have come out of living together and confronting who we really are in the process. Follow us on IG and TikTok: @ladiesdoingstuff

Why is it that we always seem to get the apology we've been waiting for a little too late? We've already started the healing process, journaled about you, talked to our friends about every shady thing you've done and NOW you choose to write a 6-page letter with a half apology? Not that we're talking from experience or anything... Join in with Cheram and Aamber as they share their perspectives on receiving and giving apologies.  Is it ever too late to apologize? Follow us on IG, Threads, and TikTok: @ladiesdoingstuff Leave us a review and subscribe to always know when what The Ladies are up to next. 

The Ladies wanna know if there’s any good men left because our track record - more specifically Cheram’s track record - has yielded negative returns on investments when it comes to trying to find a partner.That means something is wrong with the world, right? There’s just a bunch of unloved and unhealed men who don’t know what it means to love anyone outside of themselves right? Or what if we were the problem?  Aamber and Cheram chat about the possibility that maybe we’re actually the problem when it comes to these unfruitful relationships. What if we’re choosing our partners based on the unhealed parts of ourselves? What would happen if we decided to spend our time with those who were more aligned with our goals? What do we need to do to protect our energy while dating but not lose faith in the process?  Follow us on IG, Threads, and TikTok: @ladiesdoingstuff  

"I don't know if you know this about us, but we're 30 something..." What's the difference between being in your 20s and being in your 30s? Low back pain out of nowhere and a good amount of life lessons, that's what.  Cheram and Aamber look back at their 20-ish year old selves and ask "how were you feeling then versus now?"  We've discovered a lot about ourselves: what we thought was important back then no longer is a priority, and how the decisions we made at 20 something affected us (for better or for worse) now in our 30s.  Listen to BFFs Cheram and Aamber as they take you back into time, re-living beautiful and sometimes painful memories that shaped them into the women they are today.  So, you're wondering: how do I get some of that "Mia Wine" y'all were sipping on? Don't fret.  Purchase from our girl Mia here. Your purchase of reoccurring alcohol delivery supports your favorite charities. That's cool, right?! sips Mia wine Be sure to like, subscribe, and follow your BFFs on all the platforms: IG & TikTok- @ladiesdoingstuff  Tell us what you want to hear next! ---> hello@ladiesdoingstuff.co / .com 

Have you ever gone out on a date and felt that instant, undeniable, irresistible chemistry? You know, love at first sight! ❤️ Yeah, neither have we. That's why we made this episode. We've put guys in the friend-zone more times than we can count. And hey, once every blue moon, they've put us in the friend-zone too. What gets us there in the first place? Your official get out of the friend-zone manual is here! Listen for yourself or for a friend *wink wink* Catch up on your favorite Ladies Doing Stuff episodes here: http://ladiesdoingstuff.co/

Ahhh, The Friendzone. We've all been there. In this live pre-show Cheram and Aamber show you all the ways NOT to land a high quality lady. For full details, listen to the upcoming episode, "How to be Friendzoned." This intro is just the beginning. Oh yeah, don't tell anyone but...the ladies have been friendzoned too. I know. Crazy right?! Who wouldn't want all of this? Let's get these guys some help 😂 Listen up, we'll spill the tea. IG: @ladiesdoingstuff www.ladiesdoingstuff.co

Listen as we break girl code and chat about what ladies really want in the bedroom - Re-released for your listening pleasure. Of course, no one size fits all! Aamber has a checklist to complete before sex comes to mind, while Cheram will risk being late for work to get it in. That’s just the beginning! Learn what we expect from men during sex, and why it's important it is for us ladies to get that check-up after a reckless summer...not speaking from experience 👀😅

Awww, we missed you too! During this live show, Cheram and Aamber recap Kiss & Tell, a previously released Ladies Doing Stuff episode about black female sexuality. Learn how the Ladies view their relationship with sex then and now! Be on the look out for a re-lease of Kiss & Tell 👀

Recorded live! In keeping with the Ladies Doing Stuff Podcast tradition, Aamber and Cheram dive deep into their wins and losses for the year. No one is holding back this episode. 2021 sure didn’t! Hold on, you may need a mimosa for this one! 🥂

Did the Ladies just have a fight? The only thing harder than building relationships is keeping them. This episode Charlie & Aamber learn even their connection is not immune to the work required to maintain friendships. We've come a long way since 2016 but who knew there is still work to be done! 🤦🏾‍♀️

Dating in Los Angeles is like having a picnic on the beach. It sounded like a good idea at the time! Next thing you know the wind picks up, your towel folds in, and you have a heavy helping of sand in your guacamole. We're back from summer break to ask you all a serious question: “Should I give up on dating?” Both of us have had our fair share of dating disasters and relationship regrets, but Aamber is about 2.3 seconds away from throwing in the towel altogether. Listen to this episode to find out how we landed here in the first place and see if Charlie’s solution restores Aamber’s hope in the dating department.

"I'm not where I want to be." Is there a millennial that can't relate? If you are that millennial, can I hold a dollar? Jk. No but really - This episode we explore how to cope when great expectations of life in Los Angeles meets harsh reality. Believe it or not, it's not all bad! We've grown. We've changed. Like a lot. 2020-2021 has shown us who we are and where we want to be. Aamber learns what it means to "enjoy the journey" while Charlie learns how to "work through" personal and professional challenges instead of simply "getting past it." Turns out there's a big difference! Listen in.

Watch this episode on YouTube! If you know the Ladies, you know we are constantly in transition. The pandemic, new jobs, new relationships, new homes, it's exciting, and stressful, and...ah I just need a moment. It's a lot. We hit up Derek Lane, fellow podcaster (and big bro) to help us sort through it all. Change can be great! It could also be a train wreck. This episode we're catching up with Derek, talking about the latest changes in our lives and how to navigate them. Watch on Youtube: https://bit.ly/2OO0zA0 Listen to Last Word by Derek Lane: http://apple.co/2NsGAGG

Examples of creepy Craigslist room rental inquiry responses: These are real ⬇️"U looking sexy want to be my live in girlfriend""Are you open to a live in girlfriend situation? Free rent as long as you stay. Doesn't have to be only sexual but actually build something nice together or keep it simple. ""I don’t have a room for you, but I do have cash. Maybe we can still help each other out?" 

Hindsight is 20/20 and 2020 is not what we pictured. The politics, the protests - it literally feels like the world is on fire. Come to think of it, California is. But hey, would you believe it if I told you we've come a long way? True, the world is crumbling a bit, but we've found a way to grow through it all. This episode the Ladies flashback and listen to their 2016 episode "Drunk Politics." All while giving 2020 insight to what used to feel like dark times (little did we know! 😂).

Hear us out. 2020 is a good year! You just have to squint past the pandemic and the entire uprooting of life as we know it! *smiles nervously*  In all seriousness, we’re learning to find the lessons in all the hardships that 2020 has thrown our way. Sudden transitions, new jobs, new anxiety, and new kitchen appliances are just the tip of the iceberg for The Ladies. --Shout out to my waffle maker! 🧇  Listen to find out why 2020 has been so good to Aamber, what triggered Charlie’s biggest breakdown to date, and what to expect from The Ladies moving forward.

*ALEXA! What are feelings?* To be fair, this previously unreleased episode was made in early 2019.  Back in the day even when things weren't all COVID-Y, we were feeling so overwhelmed with a lack of emotion that we had to ask ourselves the question, "Can you feel anything?" In retrospect, we were probably depressed. So naturally, this episode consists of 30% nervous laughter. 😅However, we digress. Today, we are a in a completely different headspace but this unlocked episode offers timeless tips when it comes to dealing with (or without) emotion. In "Can't Feel A Thing" Charlie and Aamber question their capacity for connection, explain their love + communication language, and pull from the past for profound revelations.

“Death is only the end if you believe life is about you.” We brought in Death Care expert and author of “Dear Grief, You’re a B*tch,” Shannan Guillory to educate us about death from an emotional and professional point of view. We saved this episode in the vault and now is the perfect time to share it with you. Before social distancing and self-quarantine, LA was rocked by the loss of a legend. Regardless of the challenges 2020 has brought us, we're learning to celebrate life and how to honor the lives of those that are no longer with us. This is one episode you'll have to play to the end. Check out Shannan's book, “Dear Grief, You’re a B*tch” https://www.idodeath.com/book