Havilah's Podcast

Hey friends! In this episode, I’m sitting down with Jason and Lauren Vallotton to talk all about marriage—the real, raw, and sometimes messy journey of doing life together. We’re diving into what it looks like to build a strong foundation, navigate conflict with grace, and keep intimacy alive even in the busiest seasons. Jason and Lauren bring so much wisdom and honesty to the conversation, sharing their own experiences and practic...

In this episode, we're diving deep into the heart of marriage with Barry and Lori Byrne, the powerhouse couple behind Love After Marriage and Nothing Hidden Ministries. We’re talking about the real struggles, the tools for breakthrough, and why transparency is the key to a thriving marriage. Whether you’re married, engaged, or hoping to be, this conversation is packed with wisdom on intimacy, connection, and spiritual warfare i...

Hey friends! This week, we're diving deep into marriage—what makes it healthy, what challenges come up, and how to keep growing together. And I’m not doing it alone—Ben’s here! We’re getting real about our own journey, from the early struggles to the tools that transformed our relationship. We talk communication, intimacy, and the mindset shifts that made all the difference. Whether you're newly married, deep in the trenches, or ju...

Hey friends! Today, we’re diving deep into a topic that doesn’t get enough real talk in the church—dating, sex, and singleness. Yep, we’re going there! I’m sitting down with my friend Elles Maddry, who, along with her husband, leads Moral Revolution, an organization dedicated to helping people navigate healthy sexuality within faith. We’re unpacking everything from dating apps to setting boundaries, from purity culture to how to kn...

Wow, this episode was a deep one! I sat down with my friend Aaron to talk about a topic that so many struggle with but rarely discuss—porn. We unpacked why it’s not just about self-control but about deeper needs, how shame keeps people stuck, and what real freedom looks like. Aaron shared his personal journey, the science behind addiction, and practical steps for breaking free. Whether you’re dealing with this yourself, walking alo...

Today we’re diving deep into a topic that honestly, we don’t talk about enough—the science of sex. Last time, we covered the basics of healthy sexuality, and today, we’re taking it further. Did you know that sex isn’t just about the physical? There’s a biological, emotional, and even spiritual design behind it. We’re talking hormones, bonding, God’s intention, and why culture often gets it completely wrong. Plus, I break down the t...

Wow, this episode is going to be a powerful one! We're diving into a topic that doesn’t get talked about enough—sex and sexuality. I know, I know, it’s not always an easy conversation, but that’s exactly why we need to have it. This month, we're unpacking what healthy sexuality looks like through a faith-filled lens, tackling big questions like intimacy, marriage, and even the tricky subjects like porn and shame. My goal? T...

In this episode, we dive into the power of attention and how it shapes our productivity and outcomes. I share personal insights and practical strategies for staying focused, avoiding distractions, and prioritizing what truly matters. Whether it’s tackling the one task you've been procrastinating on or learning how to set boundaries to protect your mental energy, these tips are game-changers. Plus, I reflect on how my journey of...

Are your assumptions secretly running the show? In this episode, we’re diving into how assumptions shape our decisions and relationships—often without us even realizing it. I share personal stories, like my old red convertible days, and explore how our minds love shortcuts (hello, confirmation bias!). Together, we’ll unpack practical ways to identify and challenge those sneaky thoughts holding you back, so you can reframe your pers...

This week on the podcast, we’re diving into the fascinating connection between our minds and bodies, exploring how intentional living can unlock your full potential. I’m sharing some of my favorite insights, practical tips, and even personal stories to show how things like sleep, exercise, and mindfulness can profoundly impact not just your mental clarity but your whole life. Plus, I’ll let you in on how tiny habits can lead to big...

Welcome back to the podcast! This week, we’re diving into an essential concept for the new year: moving from defense mode to discovery mode in our brains. I share insights from one of my favorite books, How to Have a Good Day by Caroline Webb, breaking down how our automatic and deliberate systems influence our responses to stress. We’ll explore practical ways to shift out of the fight, flight, or freeze mindset and into a space of...

Hey friends, welcome to a brand-new year and an exciting new series on Intentional Living! This month, we're diving into how to live with purpose by understanding how our brains work and how that impacts our choices, behaviors, and faith journey. I'll be sharing practical, actionable steps to help you align your thoughts with God's design and set priorities that actually stick. So, whether you're here to grow personally or as a lea...

Hey there! In this episode, we’re wrapping up our series on navigating life’s big decades with a dive into the 50s. I chat with Paula, a vibrant, wise, and courageous soul who shares her journey of transformation, from battling life’s curveballs to rediscovering herself in this new season. We talk about embracing change, taking risks, grieving past disappointments, and dreaming boldly, no matter your age. Whether you’re stepping in...

Hey friends! In this episode, I sat down with my incredible friend Michelle Raftery to dive into the unique challenges and joys of life in our 40s. We talk about discovering strengths, letting go of unnecessary expectations, and how grace and reflection have shaped our journey. Michelle shares her wisdom on finding freedom in embracing who we really are and the beauty of evolving through life’s seasons. Whether you're in your 40s o...

Are you navigating your 30s and wondering if you’re “doing it right”? Join me in this conversation all about the ups, downs, and edits of life in your 30s. I’m sitting down with Esther Garcia, a creative genius and a mom of three, as we dive into the challenges and victories of this transformative decade. From redefining friendships and career paths to embracing personal growth and faith, this episode is packed with real talk, laug...

In this episode, we dive deep into what it’s like navigating your 20s—the highs, the lows, and the wild unpredictability of it all. I’m joined by Katie, a third-year student at Bethel School of Supernatural Ministry, who shares what being 25 really feels like. We talk about embracing experiences, taking risks, and shaking off the pressure to have it all figured out. Whether you’re thriving, surviving, or somewhere in between, we co...

Hey friends! In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into the unseen struggles of Hearers—those prophetic personalities who connect with God through words, phrases, and conversations. We’re talking about the challenges, like when you only get part of the story or feel like God’s gone silent. I share tips on building trust, stewarding what you’ve already heard, and leaning into gratitude to quiet the noise of life. If you’ve ever wres...

Hey friends! In today’s episode, we’re diving into the "knower" prophetic personality. Are you someone who just knows things deep in your spirit, without visions or emotional experiences? You’re not alone, and you’re not missing out! I share my journey as a knower, the challenges of feeling underrepresented in spiritual environments, and how to embrace your unique way of hearing God. We’ll also talk about overcoming fear, trusting ...